My typical wedding gift is $100., but I will be attending one soon with my fiance. This is the first time we've gone to a wedding together, and I'm not sure about gifting. Should we now give $200. because there are 2 of us, or is less alright, as we are kind of considered one couple? I really don't know and just want to do the right thing.
Thanks for any replies!
2007-03-26 16:22:57 · 14 answers · asked by melouofs 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I should add in this particular instance, the bride is my cousin and I am the MOH. On one hand I'd like to give her something extra, on the other, I've already spent several hundred already.
2007-03-26 16:46:48 · update #1
I think it depends. For example, my fiance and I spent more when it was his good friend and my good friend (we'd both individually known both the bride and groom for years) than we did when it was his cousin that he remembered from childhood.
If we hadn't been together we would have gotten seperate gifts for the first one. So we decided to combine it. (And actually we regretted it--they didnt send thankyou notes and ended up divorced in a year. so we wont be spending that much again)
However, I do agree that as a bridesmaid you have already spent several hundred. Most people I know only get a real small gift if they've already spent a lot to be part of the day. My MOH didn't get me anything and my bridesmaids just got me something real small--maybe $10 gifts. They'd spent $100 on a dress already.
And remember a gift is just that--a GIFT. There really is no expectation and no minimum donation required. Rules about twice the amount of the food the bride is feeding you is just ridiculous and created by bridezillas. I think $100 as a couple is definitely more than adequate and very generous if you can afford it. I wouldn't go into debt for a friends wedding though.
2007-03-26 17:12:46 · answer #1 · answered by phantom_of_valkyrie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where do you live?
I would give double the amount of what you used to give single.
I'm surprised you ask this... you're engaged, you must know the cost of a plate at a wedding, so you need to give enough per plate and a little extra not to appear cheap.
It also depends how expensive you think the place is. If it's formal sit down, the more the better. Buffet style, casual, ok to go cheaper.
Since you have already contributed a huge amount by being in the wedding, a $100 is more than enough!
2007-03-27 22:57:45 · answer #2 · answered by Reserved 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am a wedding planner/coordinator, and I can tell you that the most important thing is that you are sincere and thoughtful in your giving; it doesn't matter the amount! If you and your fiance are like most, you are trying to save some $ for your own special day! Choose a gift and amount that you would like to receive, and feel good about it! It is perfectly acceptable to give as a couple now too.
Hope this helps!
2007-03-26 23:32:43 · answer #3 · answered by valschmal 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I usually spend $100, and my husband and I attend the weddings together as a couple.
2007-03-26 23:28:19 · answer #4 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I always felt gifts should vary with the degree you know the person and what you can afford at a given time. I'm sure anything will be appreciated! But please don't feel like it's $100/person...what if you have kids, would you want to spend even more the more your family grows? Overall, what I would give my immediate family and closest friends is much different than a casual acquaintance.
2007-03-26 23:42:50 · answer #5 · answered by Lauren G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you can afford it, give $200. Why not just split the difference and give $150 from the two of you. That's a pretty generous gift either way.
2007-03-26 23:28:45 · answer #6 · answered by MelB 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
One hundred dollars is more than sufficient. Especially since you have incurred the expense of being an attendant in the wedding.
2007-03-27 00:57:36 · answer #7 · answered by Sweetie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Spend what you normally would just now from the 2 of you, $100.00 is considered a fairly generous gift already.
2007-03-26 23:32:39 · answer #8 · answered by tashag2805 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow you can come to my wedding!!!! $100 from a couple is more than generous, I would be so grateful if you were my guest.
2007-03-27 03:37:03 · answer #9 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well u guyz are a couple now, doesnt mean u gotta spend more money! go w/ the 100, iono bout u guyz but that's a generous gift anyways,
2007-03-26 23:31:09 · answer #10 · answered by princess 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋