Im having a bit of a problem, i am an 18 yr old girl who is very attracted to a 28yr old male i met over the internet, and he has made clear that this attraction is mutual. Neither of us were looking for anything more than a fun chat when we met, but now he has mentioned getting together for real and becoming serious. All of my friends think im crazy for even considering this given that i have absolutly no problem getting good guys right here at my college, but i cant seem to stop thinking about him. I know for a fact that he has not lied about the important things anyway as i have seen him on cam and therefore was able to confirm his age, apperance, occupation, etc. We just seem to click and although everything i have ever been taught goes against this, i find myself wanting nothing more than to take him up on his offer and be with him. I am very confused over what to do, so please any thoughts, ideas, or advice about what i should or shouldn't do would be greatly welcomed.
2007-03-26 16:16:51 · 5 answers · asked by Lizzy S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Believe it or not the same thing happened to me. A lady and I were here on Yahoo Answers of all things and both of us were not only sick of the opposite sex but at the verge of total hatred; and we had both been burned by online dating services before. Yet something clicked - I went to see her in a neutral setting in a hotel that we both agreed would be my room alone if we did not hit it off - that way I was not in her house invading her space or posing a threat to her safety. But things clicked and I am happy to say she is going to be moving here in about three-four months' time. But you and he must be brutally honest - about money, about ex's, about politics, religion - the whole gamut. He should be willing to have a background check done on him also. So don't let your friends think you are both crazy - love is found in ways that God intends even if mankind cannot understand.
2007-03-26 16:27:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lizzy,
I advise you to take up the offer of becoming more serious with your 28-year old friend because I see something in store that's inspirational for the two of you in the years to come. Age does not matter when it comes to loving your soulmate. I'm in the same situation as a matter of fact right now. And my family views things like your family, so I know what you mean. You're in control of your own life, so make the best of it and have faith in God. Your family shouldn't control who you date, so it's your decision and everything.
2007-03-26 23:41:12 · answer #2 · answered by AmericanEagle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your confusion is over. Someone on line would say anything, and promise the most wonderful things. First, you are 18, and he's 28. At least He SAYS he's 28. He could be 65, bald, and have a sex-ring going, hoping you would fall for whatever he's selling. Don't get yourself into something you might not get out of easily. Concentrate on your studies. THAT WILL GET YOUR FUTURER!
2007-03-26 23:24:58 · answer #3 · answered by regwoman123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are young....you have alot of changing to do.......I"m sure right now you really really connect with him....but...he's older..and wanting someone to settle down with...(probably)....If you know exactly what you want to do with your life in the next year or two....go for it...but.....otherwise.....he will get all attached....you will get detached......you already know the answer I think......I am of the opinion that this question is just a way for you to rationalize the situation....but...thats just my one cent (the other cent I'm saving)
2007-03-26 23:26:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say for you to give this guy a chance... the way you described him seems he is a very trust worthy dude... i don't think it really matters about the age, i think it matters whether you like each other and trust each other
2007-03-26 23:23:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋