Ok here's my story. I've recently wanted to go back to church or a christian club meeting at school. So, I did. Things were going great until this girl at my christian club started to pressure me into coming. The thing was, why pressure me if I'm already coming. She would constantly call me to see if I was going to make it or not, she just needed to hear the answer. She would constantly call to see if I could meet with her for bible study 3 times a week, sometimes 2 times in one day...then after I visited her church she called me the next day and asked, "Oh, so did you like it. How was the sermon, it was interesting, huh? Wasn't it?" The way she said it was not bluntly forceful but she wouldn't ask me a question...instead she would ask me a question with her answer to it, like the one mentioned earlier. No one and nothing will force me to want to get to know God faster than I already do. Geez! These "Christians" don't know that these are the very things...
2007-03-26 16:07:57 · 8 answers · asked by bettyboop 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
that deter people away. I'm only human, and I believe no body likes to be pushed. What are your thoughts about this and if you have any similar experiences please share...
2007-03-26 16:08:42 · update #1
Maybe she is just so caught up in her faith, that she wants to share her enthusiasm. I agree that over-zealousness can drive people away, rather than encourage. But you do have a few choices. Put up with it, just accept it for what it probably is - excitement not zealousness. Speak to her about it, saying how it makes you feel. Change churches, surely there must be another one around. Yes it does, seem unfair that you should have to change when she is the problem.
2007-03-26 16:15:09 · answer #1 · answered by Sarcasma 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Which group did her belong to? There are some "christian" groups that are not totally sound (speaking in a biblical way), so, be careful. When I went to a Christian group (many years ago), the lest I was interested was in being forced to anything, since I was still evaluating all of it. Now, I am totally convinced that Christianism is the truth and a relationship with Jesus is the only way. But, because of my background, I can relate to you in the fact that no one can force you.. it is God's work, through his Holy Spirit.
2007-03-26 23:22:52 · answer #2 · answered by Joshua 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea people do tend to shy away from other people forcing them to do things, it's only natural. The best approach is to present your argument or suggestion with all parts (for or against) and let the person decide. They have a brain, they can make their own decisions.
2007-03-26 23:12:15 · answer #3 · answered by lotusmoon01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i used to go to a small country church however due to family responsibilities i could only go 2 weeks a month. the weeks that i dod go i always felt pressured to attend more often. by the preacher and by the congregation.
so i just quit going completly.
2007-03-26 23:26:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Switch to a different church or tell her you don't like being bothered.
2007-03-27 01:23:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Frankly, she sounds like she belongs on the short bus, if you take my meaning.
2007-03-26 23:11:56 · answer #6 · answered by Huddy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's only one way to deal with these people.
"I will come - unless you ask me. In that case I'll say I will but I really won't. Please remember that."
2007-03-26 23:21:01 · answer #7 · answered by eldad9 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's just creepy.
2007-03-26 23:12:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋