My mom never worries about herself and is often stubborn in doing anything for herself. (She's in her 40s). Often worried about/caring for those sick in our family, she usually neglects herself in not buying anything new for herself (ie. clothes, makeup), eating healthy (even though she always cooks for us) or going to the doctor, because she knows that she isn't well and that going to seek medical assistance (for really bad migranes, severe varicose veins, for example) will probably lead to time away for caring for her family. Due to the fact that our family is on a strict budget and my mom always holds the family together (so that if she wasn't here...that would not be good), I feel helpless. With all of the obstacles she overcame in her life and at the rate she's going now, I feel like she's aged to much for someone her age. How can I help my mom before she gets really sick?
2007-03-26 15:57:34 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Other - Health
She has a great daughter in you that is noticing her need:for health care. She should go for a check up at the Doctor's so for Mothers Day or her Birthday set up an appointment for her. Then have you or someone from the family take her to the appointment. Mothers are often like that, they take care of everyone in the family and forget themselves. Yes, it would be nice if she went out with you occasionally to walk or do some shopping, and perhaps you can talk her into that, and treat her to a lunch out as well. She is the only Mom you have and it would be good for everyone if she took care of her health.
2007-04-01 13:26:11 · answer #1 · answered by pooterilgatto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this is a tough one. Mom may not want help or feel she can't afford it. If you are seeing she is not well, help her out. If your old enough to be asking questions on here, then you should be old enough to take some of the burden off of her. Varicose veins while unsightly are not usually harmful. The migraines on the other hand can be. Find a quiet moment, a time when it can just be the two of you and voice your concerns to her. I would mention that you are worried about her health and that you feel she deserves to be taken care of, too. If you can, see if you can exercise with your mom. This may give her more stamina to feel better, and it is always easier to exercise with someone. It sounds like she has had a rough time in life and unfortunately high stress times like that leave their imprint on one's body. Find ways to relieve her stress. For example, say "mom you deserve a break, I have a treat for you" and have her a hot bubble bath, a relaxation cd, maybe a book and a glass of wine( I don't know what your mom is in to, so this is just generalized) and let her be undisturbed for an hour. Guard the door from your younger or older siblings if necessary. Also, do whatever it was she would have done were she not in the bath. Trust me a few of those will rejuvenate most. If your able, treat her to a spa day. It is unfortunate but most 'moms' never get a day off as much as they love their families they tend to neglect themselves. Just try to make sure mom has some 'me' time everyday. Good Luck!
2007-03-26 16:23:50 · answer #2 · answered by REBELLYNN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there any other "well" family members? If so you should have a talk with them a work out a plan where your mother is not doing all of the work. It seems as though she is the main provider and that can be rough. If your old enough get a job. If your not old enough you should help out around as much as you can like doing the housework for her. The most important thing you need to give her is emotional support.
2007-03-26 16:02:48 · answer #3 · answered by Kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For starters maybe everyone else that is in the household should start doing some of the things that your Mom is doing so she will have time to focus on her health. If she is busy cooking, cleaning and taking people here and there and everyone is just watching her do it maybe she feels like if she doesn't do everything that nothing will get done. Help out for goodness sake, she will appreciate it.
2007-04-03 10:56:02 · answer #4 · answered by Guitarist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being a mother on a budget and trying to keep everything together i can sympathize with your mum, and she is lucky to have you let me tell you.
i would say that the best thing you and other people in your family could do is let her have time out, a bath when she is NOT DISTURBED, time to listen to her fave music with headphones on, in a room with NO ONE ELSE, let her stay in bed a bit extra knowing that every ones breakfast will be sorted without her having to do it... make a plan and put it on the wall so everyone knows when is mums time out, and the older members of the family have to manage without her, no matter what!
My eldest daughter is 18 and then my next eldest is 16 and this is what they do for me a lot, sometimes my 18 year old just takes over, nothing is said, she just goes in the other room with her baby sisters, who are 1 and 3 and she plays with them, i find myself upstairs laying on my bed, listening to the radio....it makes such a difference!
Your mum sounds like she may be the kind of person who thinks that taking time out to look after herself, is not right, well tell her this, without her you all would not cope, and so she is the most important one that has to be looked after! She has to come first sometimes and has to be a little bit selfish to be able to keep up all her good work the rest of the time!
bless you for being so caring,
good luck
2007-04-03 08:51:10 · answer #5 · answered by delbolof 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
walking is the best medicine.
ask you mom to go on a walk with you
act like you want to talk to her, as her advice.
walk regularly. walking is the best thing.
just walk around the block, nothing special.
and you don't have to pressure her.
just ask her and i'm sure she'll do it for/with you.
if she walks a mile 4 or 5 times a week it will
be really good for her health and she doesn't even
have to know that's your secret plan.
just spend time with her that way.
2007-03-26 16:00:54 · answer #6 · answered by Sufi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Help her to change the way she thinks. That's a good start. Her thought processes will definitely improve her outward appearance. HElp her balance out her diet as well.
2007-04-02 07:36:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be good with her and invite her to have fun with simple things.
2007-03-26 16:02:34 · answer #8 · answered by Today 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always with her every time she need you.
2007-03-26 15:59:47 · answer #9 · answered by roy_marzoed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her lots of hugs and laughter
2007-03-26 16:06:41 · answer #10 · answered by Mopar Muscle Gal 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋