Single father in distress, How can i help my teenage daughter with school bullying.?

Question

what can i do to help my daughter with school bullying? Is there anything that can be done, ie; in the school. Are there any laws i can use? What can i do when the parents of the other children (bullyies) are informed and refuse to do anything like talk to there children about their actions. I've had to pull my daughter out of school,because she is terrified of going out. She has been threatened with physical harm from a few teenagers. Is there anyone out there that can give me ome advice as to how I can handle this situation before something bad happens to my daughter. The school and the parents of the other children don't seem to want to help. I'm trying my best as a single parent, I'm at my wit's end with this one. How can I handle this without getting into trouble with the Law? Any leads, suggetions would really be appreciated...distressed parent!!!!

Answer 1

Tell her to stand up for herself. Most kids like that are all talk.

Answer 2

Your daughter's school has a legal responsibility to provide your daughter a safe environment free from harrassment at school. There are many anti-hazing laws as well as bullying laws.
You need to speak with the school counselor and principal. If they do nothing, pull your daughter out of school and find an attorney. Like I said, the school is required to give a safe environment for your daughter. You can also call your state's Attorney general's office and they will be able to offer assistance one way or another.
But, do not ever, ever feel ashamed or shy or nervous about standing up for your daughter. You are being a good parent by sharing your concerns and you are trying to do something about it. Just stand firm in what you expect the school to do and don't let them intimidate you.
Best of luck!

Answer 3

Check and see if there are any laws in your state against bullying. Make sure that each and every time your daughter is bullied, that it is reported to the principal in writing and keep a copy. Set up a meeting with the principal to find what ways the school uses to prevent it from happening. Their job is to protect your daughter while at school and it is a liability to them if they refuse to prevent it.

Your daughter may be able to use this to her benefit. Have her research bullying and put together a group at school that can pass out literature to other students on bullying. She may help other kids that do not have a caring father like you. Contact the Department of Education to see if they have brochures they can send you for her to pass out. That in itself may bring attention to her bullies that she is not putting up with it and she is bringing it to light.

A lot of the time, the kids that are the bullies are being abused or witnessing things at home that no kid should witness. They are just bullying others because that is all they know. They may have issues that they don't know how to deal with. See if the school counselor can put together a group of peers or adults that those students can talk to and work out their issues. The parents know that their kids learn it from them so they will just ignore it because they don't want to believe that they did anything wrong.

Answer 4

What state are you in? I live in Utah and they have this Voucher program that starts in 07-08 school year that helps out parents to get their kids in Private Schools (pays $500 - $3000) I am a teacher at a Christian Private School, and one thing I would reccommend is ask the teacher if you can talk directly to the students and the parents with her/him there. You daughter might not like it now, but it should help at least a little bit. If it doesn't, try reasearching city laws at your state gov website. You should be able to use something against the parents or the school. Most schools are required to expell a student if accused of even small amounts of bullying. (Use the Law as a last resort thought, it can be costly.)

Answer 5

Well it seems that your daughter is having a hard time in school with bullies. Have you ever considered home schooling? It would keep her away from the bullies that are teasing her. Bus since your daughter is a teenager she would probably want to have some other teenage interaction. (Friends, Boyfriends etc.) So home schooling would probably be a desperate action if things get to out of hand.

But try asking her to talk to the School Counselor about some of this stuff that's going on with bullies. They helped me out a lot as a kid and hopefully they'll help your daughter to.

If none of that works and the school won't do anything to help then contact the school district managers and file a former complaint that your Child is being bullied and the school won't do anything to help stop the bullying. That should get their attention. Bulling is a serious issue among teenagers and it needs to be stopped before things get out of hand.

Answer 6

There are people out there who home school their children and other people's children. You might try finding someone like that and have her home schooled. Or you might think about private schools. They cost you money, but in the long run, your child receives a better education and bullying wouldn't be tolerated. You have to ask yourself how much you would sacrifice to make sure your child is safe and happy. Keeping her where she is could damage her and possibly cause her to attempt suicide or strike back, both of which would be a disaster. Don't expect the school to do anything and the parents of those children never think their child is the problem. The only way to protect her is to love her enough to get her away from it.

Answer 7

Bring her home and teach her there! Thats what I'd do! Thats actually what I did. School can be a dangerous place nowadays. These kids don't play anymore.

If you can't actually do it - threaten to do it. School districts do not like that. Tell them you will NOT stand by and watch your child be a victim of terrorisim!

You have options though. Even if you have to work full time and can't stay home to teach her yourself. My local school district has so many educational options right now that talking to one of them is like being in a sales meeting. You have the option of charter schools where they give the kids the curriculum, a computer and even a tutor when its needed. You're not alone and you are not without choices.

Answer 8

we see repeatedly that schools do nothing about bullying. it is a waste of time to talk to the parents because they will not believe their child is capable of being a bully. if at all possible send her to a different school. if that isn't an option get an attorney to speak to the parents and the principal. sometimes you need outside help to make yourself heard. make sure the school knows you will not go quietly. have your daughter carry a small recorder to record taunts and threats. do whatever you can to get proof of the abuse and remember your child is the innocent one. good luck and i wish your daughter the best. i know this is hard for both of you.

Answer 9

Why is she getting picked at? There should be a reason why she is so unpopular and not necessarily a rational one. Teens and kids in general can be utterly brutal with each other. And it could be that at this stage it could be either leave the school or sue them all, seems there are some provisions for that. But it is really tough, I used to befriend a guy who was constantly picked upon at school for no reason at all, from the first grade to the graduation and no one was able to do anything, well, on the bright side he has a really nice job at a bank and solid savings now, and his bullies are either dead, in jail or have nothing to show the world. But really contact an attorney

Answer 10

I would talk to her guidence counselor, her teachers, and the principle of the school. If the bullying doesnt stop call the police because they will have no problem talking to a group of punk teenagers about how if they keep it up they will go to jail (or juvie). It is harrassment no matter how you look at it and the police can help!

Answer 11

I would get ahold of the school rule handbook, find out their "polices" and then go grill the principal using their own book against them. Your child has the RIGHT to be protected in school. You can threaten lawsuit if this is not looked at thoroughly.