I am getting married in a little over a month and tonight I was looking in bridal magazines for hairstyles. I started thinking about when everyone will first see me walking down the aisle and I instantly could not breathe. I am a person that does not like too much attention, so I am not sure on how to handle it. I am afraid when the day comes, I will not be able to walk down the aisle. Help.
2007-03-26 15:51:24 · 10 answers · asked by vik25love 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Tearful....lol. that is what one of my bridesmaids are doing.
2007-03-26 16:03:10 · update #1
Learn how to do this technique called Diaphragmatic Breathing - it's OUTSTANDING for controlling anxiety. In fact, my girlfriend said it's what they taught her to do in her lamaze class. Basically, your body is incapable of feeling anxious while you're doing it.
Here's how you do it:
http://www.cchs.net/health/health-info/docs/2400/2409.asp?index=9445
Practice, and you'll get good at it in no time. When you start feeling nervous, breathe this way and you'll calm down right away. You can even do it right before you walk down the aisle.
Good luck!!
2007-03-26 16:41:26 · answer #1 · answered by Silver_Stars 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds simple enough, but in a word, relax. Worry begets worry. I know it may sound obvious, but you have to just breathe. Take a minute in the limo or outside the church to do a few breathing exercises. You can find some online, but the one I always find most useful is sucking in as much air as you possibly can - filling your lungs as much as humanly possible - hold it for a few seconds and the blow it all out slowly but fully. As hard as you breathed in, you have to then breathe out. This isn't just an "ideal" way of relaxing - it's science. It redistributes the blood flow in your body and helps you to relax.
So, that is the way to take care of your body, but as for your mind and the hang-up of having all eyes on you, that just requires a little logic. There will not likely be many days in your life when you are more beautiful than on your wedding day. If ever there was a day to have all eyes on you, this is it! Enjoy the attention, enjoy the fuss... you have nothing to be embarrassed about. Just smile and soak it all up. And honestly, while this is a concern now (understandably) when the time comes, you will probably find you're a lot more calm than you expected.
I was just married a few months ago and I am a perpetual blusher. I thought for sure I'd be beet red, but when it came down to that moment, all I could think of, all I cared about was the man at the end of that aisle. I was so excited to get down that aisle that every nerve and concern I had just kind of melted away. I even said to my groom later, the minute before I walked down the aisle was probably the most calm I've been in two months. You may surprise yourself! Take the nuptials seriously, of course, but the rest of it... don't sweat it. At the end of the day, the ONLY thing that matters, is that you are married! Ejoy and congrats!
2007-03-26 23:06:01 · answer #2 · answered by Sweet November 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your eyes on your groom. That's the best advice I can give you...don't take your eyes off him. The second you do, is when you realize how many people are looking at you, and that's when you start freaking out. So just keep your gaze locked on him...you can even arrange it so that he knows to look right at you--he will anyway, but tell him he is NOT to look away. LOL You'll get through it just fine.
Make sure you eat something before the wedding, and that's great advice to go to the bathroom before getting your dress on too! Take some snacks in a cooler, like fresh fruit or cheese sticks for after the ceremony, in case you get a little shaky during photos.
2007-03-26 23:31:35 · answer #3 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On the morning of the wedding, eat something, even if you don't feel like it. No caffine, no alcohol (even the night before). Keep hydrated.
Before putting on your dress, take one last pee.
Before leaving to walk the aisle, take a few moments by yourself. Give thought to the fact that you are going to marry the man you love most, and who loves you as much in return. Look at the beautiful image staring back from you in the mirror. Take a deep breath & go. Stand straight, & smile; you aren't walking the last mile!
You will walk the aisle knowing you are stunning.
2007-03-26 22:55:48 · answer #4 · answered by weddrev 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you are walking down that aisle they only thing you will see is the man you love and that is all you will think about. Everyone else will just fade away. Just put on a smile and look into the eyes of the man you love and plan to spend the rest of your life with.
2007-03-27 06:58:07 · answer #5 · answered by Ladybugs77 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will do fine. you will be so busy on your wedding day that you won't have time for the jitters. really.
as you stand at the top of the aisle, your groom will turn to look at you. concentrate on him as you begin your journey down the aisle. watch his face as he sees you come towards him. the little smile playing about his lips, his eyes will light up at the sight of you in your gown, and he will blush. really he will. just keep looking at him. no one else matters really. this is a private moment between the two of you and is something you will always cherish. so walk to him. and when you get there and he takes your hand in his and tucks it under his arm, pulling you a little closer you will feel such a rush of joy and love that it will calm you.
good luck sweetie and have a wonderful marriage.
2007-03-26 23:10:03 · answer #6 · answered by the quiet one 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm getting married in July, and I'm having the same reaction as you are. Every time I think about that long walk, I get all light headed and short of breath. It's not the actual marriage, and it's definitely not the groom, I just hate being the center of attention! All my married friends tell me to just look right at my groom, and the walk will not be that long or nerve-racking. I'm just afraid of tripping, or worse passing out. I was also given the advice to make sure to eat something..a piece of toast a glass of o.j. so that I don't get woozy. Good luck to both of us!!
2007-03-26 23:03:41 · answer #7 · answered by MelB 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It goes away.
Take it from someone wh owas DREADING that moment for months. Then, on the wedding day, I was in a panic over it. But as soon as those doors opened for me to start walking, it all went away. You'll be just fine, I promise. I was so excited about getting married you couldn't keep me from getting down the aisle when it came to it.
2007-03-27 00:14:35 · answer #8 · answered by layla983 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your eyes on that awesome groom standing there waiting for you and concentrate on him.
2007-03-26 23:36:17 · answer #9 · answered by Maria S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
haha I had that feeling too yesterday, I was thinking of taking some Zanex.
2007-03-26 23:01:03 · answer #10 · answered by Tearful25 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋