In high school there were people including girls who teased me because I was nerdy. After college I am the man with the muscles, the boxing ability, and the baddest urban wear. All the ladies want me. What was so funny is that those same girls who teased me in high school even wants me now and I turned around rejected their offer and laughed at them to make them feel stupid. Is that great revenge?
2007-03-26 15:45:36 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
let it go.....life is too short to live in the shadows of the past
2007-03-26 15:48:32 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask if it is okay then the answer is no if it was then you would have no question. Revenge is never good. let it go. It is only eating at you. We all do things when we are young and dumb that we regret later that does not mean that we should be punished for it into our adult lives when we hopefully now know better. Truth of the matter is kids can be mean the key word there is KIDS. You are an adult now. Obviously you are still insecure about the past otherwise you would not fell the need to build yourself up. From what you say it sounds like you really have it going on physically and materialistically. If someone hurt you what you do is you tell them how they made you feel. Did it make you feel any better about the past after you turned them down. If so like I said before you would not have asked the question.
2007-03-26 15:55:51 · answer #2 · answered by Shay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, someone is confident! Remember back to high school...those girls picked on you, maybe even call you nerdy, and it hurt you. Remember how that felt? It felt terrible I'm sure. Why would you want to do that to someone else, even if it is the same person that did it to you? Why not be the bigger person and say no thanks, that they had hurt you in the past and that's not something you're looking for in a girl. That would make the feel bad and actually think about how badly they had hurt you without making them feel like an idiot...I'm sure you don't like that feeling. Life isn't about revenge. And I also thought that you'd like to know...not all the ladies want you, I don't...you sound way too cocky and self-centered. If you are a bigger man now, why not act the part?
2007-03-26 15:53:07 · answer #3 · answered by JoAnn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is NO.
Take it from someone who was semi nerdy in the 9th grade, Hit the weights, hit the books and TALKED TO EVERYONE...that's right, no cliques....I became very popular in very short order FOR THE RIGHT REASONS.
It doesn't matter how cute you think you are.....be well-grounded and kick that arrogance to the curb, it doesn't you any good...infact it makes you worse than when you started.
Be A Gentleman 100% of the time. Know what you want and go after it. A goal oriented person who is down-to-earth gets much more respect than a revenge seeking nerd whose turned his life around.
Those girls have given you a template on what NOT TO BE LIKE. Not learning from their mistakes makes you just as bad as they are.
Stop being so pissed and look at the good health you have...
practice kindness and humility and everything will shine for you.
Plus...you need to give them a chance to change their minds...you never know who your better half will end up being.
2007-03-26 15:54:29 · answer #4 · answered by tito_swave 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Revenge always has a way of kicking you in the teeth. Funny thing is, I was the reverse of you. I was a girl who, although wasn't ugly, got better looking with age. The craziest thing happened, though, is those same people who gave me such a hard time in high school NEVER remembered it that way. Some of them are my good friends now. I did bring it up to them...and without exception, not one of them remembered the situation as I did. People mature as they get older (hopefully anyway) and treating them the same way...did it really make you feel better? Are you any better than them if you did the same thing they did IN HIGH SCHOOL than you are RIGHT NOW in college? Think about it...you might be missing out....
Good luck! (from the formerly nerdy girl!)
2007-03-26 15:51:24 · answer #5 · answered by jzmn2btrfly121 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it's not...all you are showing is that you have graduated from being nerdy to being a u know what...and that under the muscles and the clothes, u r still insecure...i am not saying that what they did 2 u was at all right, but how much better r u being right now? you have already gone through high school, college, and now you are supposed to be living as an adult and you are still focusing on this.
what is going to happen when other girls start watching your behavior and decide that based on how much of a jerk you are being, they don't want to be around you? you are going to be cutting yourself out of meeting real people who could possibly be interested in knowing you for who you are and you just blew it because of seeking your version of revenge from people back in high school.
their will be bigger and tougher battles to fight in your life. don't waste your time and energy like this. character is what counts above all.
2007-03-26 15:56:26 · answer #6 · answered by la21unica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well im 14 and sense i was 10 peaple called me fat stupid four eyes and e.t.c but know im in 8th grade and there all my friends now and i just asked them to say sorry and they did plus i still look the same but i am smarter but mostly you should have asked them why they choose you know when they didnt choose you before its better that way and you wont live with guilt for doing what you did Two wrongs dont make a right
2007-03-26 15:54:26 · answer #7 · answered by kiwana911 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, there is no worthwhile revenge. The best response to situations like that is to lead a life of excellence, as it seems you feel you have done. Just do that, and you need do nothing more. The rest just takes care of itself.
I do love how you worded all your premium accomplishments. Made me smile.
2007-03-26 15:52:05 · answer #8 · answered by siddoly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its nice to see you've been able to turn those tables around and change who you are, and how you perceive yourself. But just move on. Its not going to change your past by putting them down and its just going to hurt someone else, so why do it? In the end it wont make you feel better. Good luck.
2007-03-26 16:07:25 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are college, now would be a good time to grow up and let it go, Get a life and enjoy the new ladies that are attracted to you,
2007-03-26 15:51:59 · answer #10 · answered by ann m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Revenge is a negative way to view this. You have turned into something they said you would not. Be happy, but not boastful!
Are you happy with yourself? Then it will show in all you do. Keep pushing forward.
2007-03-26 15:50:38 · answer #11 · answered by pooty36 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋