Life Crisis?

Question

I have been depressed for a while now. On top of endless homework from taking AP classes, I have a (what seems like) a cronic shyness, a disgust for my body that will never be thin enough, a growing lack of modivation, and a sense that I am not good enough to be loved by anyone. But the only thing I want is to have a boyfriend (a specific boy who seems to be interested in me but I fear that he might just be playing with my head). I can't stand these games but there's no way in hell I can "make a move". I wish I could but it's simply impossible... believe me. It's unimaginably painful to think that I will just have to accept that I will not be with him (as I have with MANY other guys). This depression is making me miserable! I constantly think of ending my life! I know it's wrong but it sounds like the only way to end this pain inside.

Answer 1

You and I are in the EXACT same boat! What I do is talk to my mom or my best friend, do it in an email so that they dont interrupt you and you can get all of your feelings out. Remember, "suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem." These feelings will pass in time.

Answer 2

I too was in a similar situation before, not too long ago actually. The best advice I can give is to not care what anyone thinks (I know easier said then done right) and confront this guy about whether or not he is playing games. And when he answers you, follow your heart; does it say to believe him or that he's lying.
The comment you made about it being "impossible"...its not. I'm sure you've heard the phrase, "If you want it bad enough, you'll get it". Well it's true. If you really want to be with him then you will be. You'll get past the shyness and you'll make a move. If you wait for him it might never happen.
There is no reason to end your life. As someone who went through this for a long period of time, I am glad I never did. I would have missed out on so many wonderful things. I would have missed out on my daughter. If you end it now you don't know the things you will miss out on. Take it one day at a time.
Also, I want you to go to this website and take a look at this movie, "The Secret". It has changed so many lives, and the few that I know who have watched it, it has done wonders for their lives. Take care and I hope everything works out for you.


http://www.thesecret.tv/

Answer 3

wow.. you sound like me in high school. honey first let me say you do not need a boy to make you feel good about yourself and especially one thats gonna play with your head. i never made a move on a guy in my life and im the shiest person you could ever meet, so i knoe what your going through. i knoe it feels like you just wanna die cuz u cant be super skinny and u dont have a bf and u have to deal with school and your so depressed and blah blah blah. i was that girl that liked the boy and he didnt like me and he liked someone else or he was just messin with me. ive been that girl that wanted to kill herself more time than you can think. i was that girl and sometimes still am that is disgusted with her body. we all wish we could look like the runway models and the celebrities but you have to face the facts and accept that you are the way you are for a reason and the only thing you can do is make things better about yourself, improve things. dont starve yourself or anything just eat healthier. dont dwell on that one guy.. let all guys knoe that your available and that your tough and you dont need to be hung up on one guy. im not saying be a sl*t just play the field and see what you like and see how different some guys can be. im not skinny im 5'1 and i weigh 120 pounds and im 19 yrs old. i have a tummy and im just trying to improve it by working out and eating right. i used yo hate myself beyond belief but now i accepted that i may always look a little thicker than most girls and i have shape which i like now. and i knoe have a bf and he worships me and loves me for who i am and doesnt care about how i look, he likes that i have a shape. i knoe you can find a guy like that too just be confident and eat right stay strong and be healthy. dont be so miserable about it, just improve the things you already have and youll be happy too.

Answer 4

Sweetie that is not the answer. You need to talk to someone about your problems. A counselor, your boyfriend, someone. Life can be overwhelming for everyone at times, that is just life. Someone somewhere loves you. Think about how bad it would make them feel if you took your life. I have felt the same way many times but I always think back to my mom & how would devistate her if I did that.