I dated this guy and I thought that he was cute... but his friends kept making rude comments like "how did you end up with her?", etc. Even his dad was constantly asking him that. Eventually, he started treating me differently... and differently as in a bad way (complaining about my appearance). I eventually dumped him because of this, and TWO HOURS after I dumped him, he goes out with this ugly hoochie mama who is known for being easy (I'm known for being a good girl). Why would my looks bother him? Shouldn't it matter more that I find him attractive? Why would he let people get to him? :(
BTW; when I dumped him, he was crying though... :(
I wish that it was different
2007-03-26 15:37:33 · 17 answers · asked by Sloane 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
So...he wants to be friends with me; should I bring it up?
2007-03-26 15:52:32 · update #1
Gosh do we think a lot of ourselves or what?
2007-03-26 15:40:30 · answer #1 · answered by SheRa 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are a lot of guys out there who appear to be tough on the outside but in reality they are very insecure. This insecurity is what makes them act tough and hard - like an alpha. Your man was clearly insecure because right after you dumped him he went out and tried to get validation from somewhere else. This insecurity may have been because of his look or because of something else. Either way the fact that he was insecure would make him worry about his looks and people commenting on it probably did not help the situation.
2007-03-26 15:43:17 · answer #2 · answered by Reeve 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shoot....people ask me how I ended up with my pretty wife...
She started managing my fashion and appearance and
guess what, I turned out not to be as bad as i thought....
What this young man should have done, is justified himself a bit more instead of taking it out on you. His friends and family should have been more supportive.
You should have sat him down and told him about what really matters. This could have changed things and you'd probably be happy right now.
We are all attracted to the ones we want because mother nature ENCODES us via "selective process", to help survival of our species....not everyone is encoded to like the same things....
It is called INDIVIDUALITY. (aka tastes)
FInd out if he did anything with that hoochie mama....if he didn't then i;d tell him he has to get his act together to even talk to you the next time he sees you.
One more thing.....a girl who is modest but proud of her looks
is twice as attractive as one who thinks she's all that and a bag of chips.....there is a difference between confidence and arrogance.
Good luck.
PS he cried because breaking up wasn't what he wanted. Communication is key here....
2007-03-26 15:48:01 · answer #3 · answered by tito_swave 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I get that a lot, since I'm less than average looking and my girlfriend is HOT. I just shrug it off, actually take it as more of a compliment to me like its all in good fun.
I do hear it sometimes though, when I'm with friends and see a homely guy with a hot girlfriend, and someone snidely comments, "How did he end up with her?".
My witty response is - "Maybe he's a nice guy, some women actually still care about that."
2007-03-26 15:42:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've dealt with that. Men are insecure too and sometimes it is easier to be with an uglier woman than a prettier. THe pretty woman always leaves you watching everyone around you, but the ugly is not a threat. Some girls think like that too!
2007-03-26 15:41:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
hi,if you really love each other even ho diff you may think you have to accept and support each other,in your case yu just dump him and he just cry!but did you talk about wats the real prob?and how can it be solve i guess not!ye sometime guys feel insecure and intimidated if they date pretty girls,to make him at eas the girl is the one suppose to back him out or try to buil his confidence,if they tell how did you end up with that girl!you can reply by telling themyou really like him or he is a nice guy this will boost his selfconfidence and find away to retaliate on the situation,to share some im not that good looking guy in school wen i was in highschool.i even rate myself as below average,but this most popular,pretty,inteligent girl who is my classmate always want to be with me she want me to seatbesides her on class go to snack and lunch together and even take her to there home,but im not his boyfriend wen people tell the same thing to us shes the one who answer she tell them its on the looks its in the attitude,its lift me so i can get on with it and i tell them jokes so stop like oposite attraks!hmmm
hope i inspire you a bit
2007-03-26 16:09:04 · answer #6 · answered by vash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No WAY! A guy should be proud to have a dime-piece (pretty girl) on his arm at all times (unless she's crazy) He's just insecure for treating you different like you said
2007-03-26 16:07:47 · answer #7 · answered by Icebox -0: Never Again 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately you found someone who is that insecure about himself. Other people feasted on that (for SOME idiotic reason) and it led to you separating.
He could have been the best looking guy in town, but if he's not convinced of anything about himself and allows himself to be manipulated by others, he's destined for failure his entire romantic life.
2007-03-26 15:48:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was in high school, my girlfriend was very pretty, and was a baton twirler in the band. I was just average looking,....but...I had confidence in myself and didn't worry about what other guys, (and girls) were saying about our relationship. She was the prettiest girl in the band, and I wasn't worried, because she told me that she wanted to be my best friend....and wanted to go with me. I was extremely proud to be her boyfriend.
2007-03-26 16:26:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cause he probably cares about other peoples' opinions other than yours. It's tough to keep doing something, even though you love it, but everybody tells you not to, or questions your intent. The other girl was just a rebound girl...so that isn't going to go anywhere.
2007-03-26 15:42:11 · answer #10 · answered by Jeff E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible for anyone to feel insecure no matter what they look like. It just depends on their background and their personality. Maybe his friends and his dad made him feel like he doesn't deserve someone as good as you.
2007-03-26 15:41:27 · answer #11 · answered by Smiles 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋