my mom has insane mood swings. my step mom tells me when and when i cant come to my dads. my dad wont listen to me. My mom really is unstable she is always goping out to see boyfirends on school nights and doesnt come back till 1 am. if you say anything she doesnt want to hear she screams and yells and cusses and hits me. waht should i do. im not trying to whine i just dont know what to do anymore.
2007-03-26 15:31:04 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I feel for you.. be strong. Talk to your friends. I suppose you are very young. Find someone in your family you can trust, your grand parents if they are around, or an older brother. You are not whiny...It seems that your parents are not doing a good job. Be strong...try to get away from the things that hurt you finding good friends and talking to a counselor y you have one at school...be always in the good path :-)
I hope this helps....grown ups sometimes are worse than kids, and very selfish...
2007-03-26 15:35:36 · answer #1 · answered by Lis 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to a pastor or a counselor. Get some help. It sounds like someone needs to talk to your mother. Tell your Dad how bad it has gotten at home. What your mom is doing is wrong honey. Be strong. Be positive. Don't let your childhood define who you are. I had a hard time with this one. I was a product of rape. My mother was depressed most of the time and cried and stayed in her room alot. I cleaned my own clothes and stuff as a little girl. Looking back,I know I had childhood depression. It has followed me into adulthood. I have grown up to be responsible, loving and a good mother. Of cousrse I wonder why I hjave spent so much time wishing I would have been stronger. Don't do that.
Also, hitting is child abuse. I don't know how bad it is, but you can love your mother but still demand respect from her. The next time she hits you, tell her that you are going to tell and you mean it! I'll bet she has a problem that needs to be adressed by a doctor.
I will say a little prayer for you. Be strong and love yourself more than I did.
Does you step mom know you are being abused?
2007-03-26 22:41:04 · answer #2 · answered by pooty36 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You aren't whining, that is something that no one should have to put up with. My friend has the same exact problem that you do, except it is her step dad saying when she can see her mom, and she lives with her dad who yells and hits. I dont know how old you are, if you are under 18, you are going to have to wait it out. I am sorry, it sucks, no one should have to go through this. My friend escaped her family by practically living at my house. She locks herself in her room when she is home, and her dad never talks to her anyway. The best thing that you can do is to steer clear of the drama, and just wait it out. You will be okay, I promise. I am so sorry of what you have to deal with.
2007-03-26 22:35:59 · answer #3 · answered by sterces518255 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe there is other family that you can go stay with. And i know this is something that you don't want to do but if she keeps hitting you call the cops you don't deserve that sometimes that is what it takes for your mom and dad to open there eyes. you could also talk to a counselor at school they will help you. But you need to do something about this now before it gets worse. Good luck and hope that this helped a little.
2007-03-26 22:37:10 · answer #4 · answered by christina b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Apparently you will have to take care of you self very early in live. You will not be the first eider the last. That is live and you can take you time to "cry" for that but you have to make intelligent decisions to stand up by you self. Fortunately their are a lot of opportunities out their you can take advantage. Think and the possibility to get a part time job, go to college and plan a better live for you and your future family. Think that when you have thing by your self it has a better taest.
2007-03-26 22:48:24 · answer #5 · answered by Today 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel. First, see if theres a friends house you can stay the night at for a few days & try to cool down. Try to get your dad to start hearing what you have to say. Ask your mom if you can have a talk with her & tell her whats on your mind. Try to explain to her that you don't like how she acts sometime & try to get her to understand why the things she does bothers you. Most parents listen to what they're kids have to say, try to make them listen to you. I wish you the best...
2007-03-26 22:40:36 · answer #6 · answered by Jenna Snow 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know that is rough. But it will get better. Start focusing on you. Someday you will be away from all that. The best way to do that is make good grades ( it sounds corny and stupid but it is true! ). If you want to make good money, I mean good enough to live the way you want to, go to school. You will graduate college by the time you are 23 and then you will be set for the rest of your life. You will be able to support yourself and no one will ever be able to bother you again. I waited later to go to school but it was the best thing I ever did. And don't worry if you are coming from a single parent home you will get plenty of federal " FREE " money to live on campus and for food and books. Get away and get happy. I did:)
2007-03-26 22:38:26 · answer #7 · answered by The Angry Stick Man 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go talk to your school counselor. Your mom seems to need help. Your dad seems to be in denial, and you seem to be in an unsafe situation. The school counselors are required to help you talk to someone if you are being abused and/or neglected. Maybe just having them act as an intermediary will help. Sometimes people don't see what's in front of them until someone else points it out. Good luck!
2007-03-26 22:35:03 · answer #8 · answered by jzmn2btrfly121 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there's alot of things to help. first it would probably help YOU cope if you had some way to let out your frustrations or sorrows. take up writing in a journal or painting. if you can learn to take out your problems in a different way than your surroundings, then you'll be better off in the future.
secondly, ask an adult or school counselour for help. you probably don't want to resort to this, but an adult, a STABLE adult can really help you sort out your life. Preferably one you're close to and can relate even a little.
and lastly, don't think of everything as bad. because in every life there's someone who makes it worth living. think of that one person who keeps you alive everyday.
hope it helps. good luck.
2007-03-26 22:35:55 · answer #9 · answered by maxine g 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Age is a major factor... you guys should say how old you are in posts like this. You need to seek outside help. Find a friend to live with or something. Family member. Someone stable.
2007-03-26 22:55:29 · answer #10 · answered by lucki female 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋