I feel so bad and horrible. What should I do? Please answer for the sake of my emotional state.?

Question

There is this guy at school and we'll call him J. his twin bro Z. is really cute and is like the bomb (he's my crush) and so anyway J. got sick for like 2 weeks and hasn't been to school in like a really long time. So anyway J. calls me a *&%$# and so I call his house. We have a trip to this camp for like 3 days and 2 nights coming up. I was really mad at him because he called me that even though it sounds so childish. So i called him and told him I was glad that he coudln't come to school. Itwas really my crush I was speaking to. What I didn't know was that J. almost died. I was so sad when I found out and his cousin tried to beat me up. He gave me a black eye. I called him mom and apologized (big time). Can i do something to forgive myself? please answer. thanks. . . .

Answer 1

Umm, why the hell did his cousin (GUY im assuming since ou said HE) touch you (a GIRL im assuming) that is something you shouldnt be mad about. and then just apologize to the guy (J or Z, or w/e the hell) and buy yourself a cute bag and some chocolate. good luck :)

Answer 2

Firstly, you all acted childish in this situation at first. However, wanting to forgive yourself. Sit down little girl and let me tell you something.

You had no idea he almost died. You also didn't know it was "Z" you were talking to on the phone. You don't need to forgive yourself for either of those... you made a mistake. The cousin beating you up though? That is called assault. That also makes him a pussy. A giant filthy pussy. No man, no matter what, should ever, EVER hit a woman. No offense but you are physically weaker than men. The fact that he did this makes him an outcast of manhood. Here's how to "forgive" yourself... sue him. He has assaulted you and caused you physical damage. That is punishable to the full extent of the law. Sue him. Get money. Spend it on yourself. He deserves no less.

Answer 3

Everyone makes mistakes..... there's no going around it. Lord knows I've said many things at the wrong place and time and it has gotten myself and others in trouble. Did you apologize to J? That's probably the biggest thing you can do. Don't try to 'buy' his friendship/respect back because that will only make things worse; don't blow things out of proportion. Actions always speak louder than words, so apoligizing to J and Z will show them that. As for forgiving yourself, I think that apologizing to them will help greatly, and learning from this. Things happen for a reason, and maybe this was to teach you to be careful for what you wish for. (I know I'm mentioning alot of typical quotes, but they're all true). If no one ever made mistakes, then how could we ever learn anything?

Answer 4

Bee, everyone in this situation needs to be more accountable for their actions. People, even close friends, call eachother HORRIBLE names over the course of a friendship. It happens. It was a bad misunderstanding, you didnt have all the information, and rightly so, you were angry at being called a derogatory name for no apparent reason. Try to plead your case with J & Z and make sure they know what you DIDNT know. But remember, J owes you an apology too, coz if he was your friend, he had no right throwing a nasty line at you like that. Let it slide, hon. You'll face FAR more difficult issues in the future. If J wants to continue to be a jerk & call you names, consdier taking him off your friends list. You don't need negative jerks dragging you down, even if you have a crush on his brother. Best of luck!

Answer 5

First of all, Call Z or when you see him in school apologize for what happened over the phone, while explaining the situation that happened between you and J. Now getting to the black eye, cousin or not no one has the right to lay their hands on you. Back to Z, if he doesn't except your apology you will know that you tried your best. Good luck

Answer 6

You shouldn't beat yourself up. There's no way you could have known, and it's one of those things that is so far outside everyday life that it's understandable that you could have made a mistake like this.

You should look at this as a lesson though. When we're young (and, heck, a lot of people when they're not so young), we often forget to put ourselves in other people's shoes, and focus more on how we're feeling about something.

Let this serve as a reminder to you in he future to consider that other people's reasons for things might not be what you expect.

Answer 7

Writing a written apology to the person in question, even if they don't accept it, will go a long way to forgiving yourself. If you do the grown-up thing and swallow your pride, even if he doesn't accept it, you've done all that you can do. I hope it gives you a lesson in thinking before you speak, though, because the proverbial "foot in mouth" is never a good thing, and there are two sides to every story. Even if he doesn't forgive you....forgive yourself and promise never to do it again. Good luck!

Answer 8

sounds like you did what you should of already. Made all parties involved aware why you reacted the way you did. But getting close with the family may take alittle more time to earn their trust. Hon dont be so hard on yourself. We learn from our mistakes. without them there wouldnt be growth.

Answer 9

i think if you apologized you should forgive yourself. the only other think is to apologize to the kid and ask him for an apology for calling you what ever it was. (sorry couldnt read it cuz of the $#@% crap.) and i was just wondering why did a guy give you a black eye. thats not cool.

Answer 10

Just think logically...how were you to know that he was so badly injured? Until you had called up and abused him you had no idea and you were just defending yourself. It was a mistake and just think that in the future you will most certainly find out all the facts before you do that again.