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how to tell a girl that i like her. well she has a bf and i dont want to mess that up just for me. and i know where she lives but she also goes to my school and my church. so i dont know where and when i should tell her. plz help me

Answer 1

If you want to steal her away you have to be more than the boyfriend she is with. You have to be cuter, smarter, funnier and you have to show you care for her more. You have to be her friend before she can find any of this out about you. So become her friend. After your her friend start innocently flirting with her. See how she takes it. If she flirts back you can steal her away, but it will take time. If not then you moved to fast and need to back off for a bit and try again later.

You have to make her want to leave her boyfriend also. So keep your eyes open for his weak moments when he strays from the path of a good boyfriend. Another words find dirt and use it. Just don't be the bearer of the dirt. Get someone else to spread the word. You want to be the person that she calls when she finds out about the dirt. If you call her about the dirt then you look like the person who dug it up. If she calls you, you become the knight in shining armor that has a shoulder to cry on.

You have to be careful because this type of manipulation will end the friendship and your future chances to be with her. If you are caught then just tell her your feelings, because you won't get another chance.

Honestly this is a tried and proven method but it's not really worth all the trouble because of the time frame it takes for you to pull it off. There are so many women out there just find another one that make you happy.

Answer 2

I know what you are going through because i have had a similar experience. Its always difficult telling someone how you feel about them. But make you tell her how you feel because you don`t want to regret not saying anything.

The best place to go about telling her, would be somewhere private. Somewhere where there are not many people or no one would be eavesdropping. If you are friends with her you could ask her to hang out one day and tell her then. Or another option would be to just ask her to walk with you for a moment at church or school when you see her alone. If you can`t do that, you might try calling her in the evening and tell her over the phone. Let her know that you don`t want to endanger her relationship at all and you have no ill intentions.

The main thing is--Tell her soon! Don`t wait around wondering what to do. Life is short, you have to enjoy it. Don`t spend your time wondering what might happen... just do it. Make the best of whatever happens and regret nothing.

Hope that helps.

Answer 3

Well depending on your age, there are several ways.

if you are under 14 I suggest you have a small party / get together. Invite her boyfriend, too! This will let her know that you show interest in her but in a friendly way instead of an intimate way - but trust me she will get the idea.

if you are over 16 you could invite her out as a friend. Nothing more, and let her know of this. Maybe hang out with her and her friends a bit, or tease her and talk to her every now and then. Once you two get used to eachother, you can ask her if she wants to go __________ with you. INVITE FRIENDS! this takes a lot of pressure off the two of you, and a lot of suspicion off your intent.

ideas? maybe take her to a laser quest kind of game if you have those near you,
mini golf,
pool,
concert
amusement park

these are all fun attractions that are a little less intamte (dont take her for dinner or a movie... she has a boyfriend) and these ideas are also good for small groups.

tell her to bring some of her friends. Remember, it's ok for her boyfriend to tag along!


Also, one valuable tip: You need an Edge. Something that seperates YOU from everybody else. Tease her, be mean to her in a joking / funny way, and then be nice the odd time, to show her that you really DO care, and your not just an asshole. But this also shows her you are fun and relaxed. EXAMPLE: if she drops her pen, laugh at her, and kick it away (jokingly!!). she will laugh back. But draw a line - you can now go get her pen, and say something like "your lucky im getting this for you" and smile at her to let her know your just being friendly.

Answer 4

Find something you both have in common and start from there. Don't rush telling her you like her until you both get to know each other, you might find out that she is not what you think and you don't want to make a fool of yourself. Take it carefully and slow.

Answer 5

i think that if she has a bf and you dont want to screw that up for her then you should keep it to yourself until she is available. especially if you are friends... she might get mad or worse the bf could find out and then there goes the firend ship cuz he obviously wont want you talkin to her if he knows you like her. good luck.

Answer 6

if you dont want to mess up her happiness and her relationship, then dont tell her. If you're gonna be around, then wait out the relationship. She wouldn't already be in a relationship is she didn't want to be with him. sorry dude!

Answer 7

Maybe send her some sort of email or message just letting her know that you like her. She may be caught off guard and get uncomfortable if you do that face to face with her having no clue that you like her...good luck

Answer 8

Ahh...don't tell her that. It will just freak her out. Probably just talk to her more and maybe flirt a little. Don't tell her you like her or she will immediately think she's superior to you and may even string you along. Just be confident and speak to her and become her friend and gradually you may become more.

Answer 9

If she plays her boyfriend for you, she'll play you for someone else. Karma. I-ching. Darwin. Yin and Yang...all that. You go for that girl and you're asking for heartache. Believe dat homey. Lots of fish in the sea. Move on.

Answer 10

Ouch