Say you had this really good female friend who you had an absolutely noticable and strong connection with. The girl is also real pretty. You have the exact same sense of humor and you think the girl is an absolute genuinely nice and hilarious girl, would you try and take this further, into a dating relationship or would you be happy just being friends?
I'm the girl, and just wondering what other guys in the same situation would think. I'm thinking about asking him if he likes me as more then a friend.
(I know i just posted this question before, But I really need advice ;)
2007-03-26 15:15:40 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would just ask you out as friends and see what happens if there is chemistry between us it is only a matter of time before we end up together. So just go with the flow and when it feels right make a move and by making a move does not mean throw yourself at him but do give him a nice honest compliment. See if he feels the way you do he will make a move.
2007-03-26 15:22:24 · answer #1 · answered by Cyrinos 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most likely he does want you, but is scared or worries that you don't see him that way and are too much of a brother sister type of friends. I have girls who are friends that are attractive to almost every guy but me. Not that I think she isn't pretty or something like that, it is just I see her in a "pretty" like you would your sister. She is "pretty" in a way that you are proud of her and stuff, not necessarily thinking about hey she has a nice a.s.s. or whatever.
As for you, I have been that guy too. It might be that he has tried before and it didnt work (as far as making a pass) and that is how you became friends or that you both have had a bf and gf all of the time since you have been friends and not been available. It is really tricky. Please post some more info or email me and I will try to help if I can know a little more like about what I suggested. GOOD LUCK
2007-03-27 00:54:39 · answer #2 · answered by Trojan8408 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are he might like you as well, if you definetly get along very well. I had kinda the same thing with a girl. I really liked her, but I didn't get a chance to take it further because I had to stay temporarely out of state, but when i came back it was too late. She is still a very good friend of mine, but now I have absolutely no feeling about her anymore.
If i were you, I would ask this friend honestly, its better to know for sure, than to assume. And try to do this while you can, cause later, you will get over it, and you'll regret in the future.
2007-03-26 22:23:39 · answer #3 · answered by Kristian55 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem. We clicked so well and our friendship so strong, i was afraid that by pursuing a romance with her would potentially ruin things between us. Unfortunely, if you like someone, probably 5 other people do too. In my case, another dude came along and swept her off her feet. Talk about a kick in the gut. After the fact, i told her how i really felt about her and she was sad that i didn't tell her sooner, but it is too late. Don't let it happen to you.
2007-03-26 22:32:32 · answer #4 · answered by KID87 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was in High School I was friends with a girl. She was REALLY pretty and smart. We did a lot of friends things together. I never did muster up the courage to ask her out because, in my opinion, she was out of my league. Which is the way I felt.
Well 13 years later I started talking to her again and she asked me why I never asked her out? I simply told her the truth that I was to scared because of how pretty she was. She then told me that she would have gone out with me if I would have ever asked her. She then told me that she wishes that she would have married me instead of her ex-husband because I was such a nice person and truly cared for her.
So in other words just ask him and don't be shy about it. So if it goes anywhere. If you don't you might regret it
2007-03-26 22:27:52 · answer #5 · answered by speedi4got 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He probably does want to be more than friends. I have a friend like that as well, we really connect the same way you do with him....only problem is she has a long term bf, and I don't want to interfer with that, but it's really hard to ignore her.
2007-03-26 22:19:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This probably sounds bad, but there's no other way to say it.
Guys don't want to be your friend. Guys want to have sex with you. All of them. All the time.
YES, your friend wants to sleep with you. He's probably just not assertive enough to make his move.
If he's a nice guy and you think you want to be involved with him, just flat out say it. He'll appreciate it. Maybe he won't return your feelings, but honestly, why not give it a shot? It won't adversely affect your friendship, I can gurantee it.
2007-03-26 22:22:06 · answer #7 · answered by Steve 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be hard NOT TO BE attracted to someone if we clicked that much AND she was really pretty. Ask him, 'coz he's probably feeling it but afraid to ruin the friendship by saying it first.
Good luck.
2007-03-26 22:21:13 · answer #8 · answered by royride 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i could muster up the courage, i would try to take it farther. if not, i would be happy with just friends (im kinda in the same situation right now as a guy)
2007-03-26 22:19:16 · answer #9 · answered by D-mac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
any guy that has a girl as a friend only has that friend on the off chance he may someday bone her....to guys platonic friendship with a girl is a crazy myth thought up by skippy from family ties...
2007-03-26 22:20:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋