Out of the blue in his apartment he starts making a move on me. I stopped it from getting too far and left his place. I have been friends with him through class. I was so excited because I thought that he really liked me. Then he said he was just acting like a guy. And he's still getting over his relationship from a year and a half ago. He just wants to be friends. My heart was broken. Is he bitter because he didn't go all the way or are people this needy after breakups? I never really had a long term one. I can't say.
2007-03-26 15:12:09 · 8 answers · asked by sugar1973 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yeah, that's called the "rebound" effect. He's probably having lots of mixed emotions at the moment, too. He was thinking w/ the "wrong head" as guys can be apt to do, and let his more base thoughts take over. He saw a pretty girl who was nice to him & his penis did the rest of the thinking for him. If he's still getting over a relationship that ended nearly 2 years ago, you need to be looking elsewhere, sugar1973. He's evidently not equipped w/ the proper mind set to move on w/ his life & onto bigger & better relationships. I know, it sucks. He may be beating himself up over making a move on you in the first place & possibly ruining a good friendship, or at the very least, making things awkward between the two of you! Either way, I'd say let it slide off your back & continue to be his friend; sounds like he might need ya, and despite a bit of goofing up, your friendship might be salvagable. If he continues to try to put the moves on you, tell him no way. Not until he's ready to give you what you deserve; something SOLID! Best of luck, hon!
2007-03-26 15:21:16 · answer #1 · answered by Spiral_Dancer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay that was the worst excuse he could give you. He shouldnt still be getting over a girl for that long and if he is then try and stay away from him even if you are friends if he is getting to serious for you and you arent even going out!
2007-03-26 15:17:36 · answer #2 · answered by iLoVe HoRsEs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you got that right, after a breakup, people are generally needy and want a quick fix. So... be smart on this and don't let him take the best of you
2007-03-26 15:17:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut him some slack. Things like this can get into your head. But a year and one half is long time, but sometimes it takes a long time. Be careful but don't dump him just yet. Good Luck
2007-03-26 15:16:18 · answer #4 · answered by bigjohn B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yah needy is kind of a sad word for it,hun he's just wanting to get l---,i'm sorry I was young once went thru the very thing your going thru now, heck if nothing else you stopping the moves he put on you, it'll show him your not a cheep piece of booty, you did the right thing!
2007-03-26 15:19:00 · answer #5 · answered by rpoker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well one, i would ask him, why he all of a sudden made a move and broke up right after?
actually, i wouldn't even really care what his answer is. because, he didn't even think about how you felt when he made that move on you and then broke up. also, I would just suck it up and move on, he's not worth getting all heartbroken over.
2007-03-26 15:20:53 · answer #6 · answered by JJbaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it takes time with introvert.
so sympathise with him.
2007-03-26 15:16:46 · answer #7 · answered by Wondrer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it up. stop being so stuck up
2007-03-26 15:15:52 · answer #8 · answered by cc rider 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋