I know I keep complaining about it, but my boy and I just split up (he doesn't have feelings for me anymore), and it hurts something awful... I keep crying and blanking out, I can't focus, I've been binge eating 2 days straight, I can't sleep, and even when I laugh and smile I still feel awful. I miss him, but I need to get my mind off of him. Please tell me about your own dating stories, any advice, or hints to not think about him.... How to stay friends, humorous or sad stories about anything at all.... whatever you want to tell me, I'll be happy with. Thanks everyone who posts.
2007-03-26 15:05:22 · 6 answers · asked by ktcougarus 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Jan 1st I left my husband and file divorce Jan 5th. Not because I wanted too, but because I had to. I loved him terrible, but I knew he wasn't good for me. I have grieved and cried for almost 3 months. I do not know if it was the loss or if I was just so lonely. I had few friends and no family to help. Every day, every week got better and I got stronger. I knew that it was going to take time. I just went thru the motions every day, going to work, paying bills, going to church and I had to force myself to eat. I feel much better today and I have even met someone that has taken an interests in me. I am smiling again. Hang in there. Find good people to hang with, go to church, library, concerts etc. There is a lot of free stuff to do in your community, you just need to find it. You will find someone to make your heart beat again. Lots of hugs to you.....
2007-03-26 15:15:49 · answer #1 · answered by Victoria C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am,sandmans wife (yes believe it or not he is married) anyway I read your question and this is the best advice I can give - one you need to get out of the house - the more busy and active you are the less your mind will think of him. A breakup is always hard at first especially if you weren't the one who called it off. Staying friends with him is not a good idea because then you will never get over him - distance yourself for now - again stay busy and remember the world isn't over - there is someone out there better for you!
2007-03-26 15:14:12 · answer #2 · answered by SANDMAN28 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww...try engaging in activities that will take your mind off him. What do you like? This is the time to do something really special for yourself....maybe go have your nails done,or have a massage....what I'm trying to say is treat yourself.Make yourself feel like the special lady that I'm sure you are. I believe that every cloud has a silver lining, and this breakup might be be a blessing in disguise. Get rested, pamper yourself, and walk back out there with your head held high. You are one of God's beautiful creatures, and thus you should act accordingly.
Love always,
2007-03-26 15:12:58 · answer #3 · answered by biologyqueen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's how to get over it quickly.
Hierarchy and anarchy exist in a co-dependent state of tension in mythology. Mythology says that even if things are bad, maybe they are good.
You have gone to anarchy - crying (fluttery, watery eyes are a symptom of self-hypnosis), not knowing what to get angry about, having a huge appetite (your sympathetic division has given up the ghost and your "rest and digest" functions are carrying you through). This means that you must have been relying on hierarchy big time. Your boyfriend was your priest or your parishioner. You've been counting, measuring, tapping on furniture etc. big time and now your body has switched tacks.
Hypnosis is not good as it can induce catalepsy, beginning in the right arm. It affects blood flow in the left hemisphere, so that the hemispheres are uneven in their blood flow. Getting out of hypnosis can involve imagining walking back up stairs or counting yourself out of it. You could try something that involves counting and measuring to help you balance your emotions out. You could follow Adam's example in the Garden of Eden in Genesis 2:19,20 where he named the animals. Maybe you could get involved in a community project around where you live? Even learning more about the animal kingdom while you're feeling down and out would be good for your education and you never know when it might come in handy.
2007-03-26 15:14:24 · answer #4 · answered by courage 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, am going through it myself... just remember that there is someone out there for you and apparently he didn't deserve you!! That's my belief in this recent break up, that he doesn't know what he's missing!!! Keep yourself busy so you won't think about him.....clean or do something you've wanted to do and go SHOPPING!!!! Out with the old in with the new!!
2007-03-26 15:14:30 · answer #5 · answered by stoutunicorn 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
better to loved at all than to never have loved
i myself have never had a gf
so i don't nno what it feels like to be dumped
i had alot of chances and let them all slip away
i new she liked me, she gave me her phone number
and i didn't do anything
then they go out with someone else and u feeel horrible
but don't look on the downside, look at all the fun u had, spend time with oyour friend brother or sister
etc.
that'll take ur mind off him
pete
2007-03-26 15:11:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋