My girlfriend and I have been fighting alot. Need advice.?

Question

My girlfriend and I have been fighting and she told me that shes not as attracted to me anymore. So I need some advice. This is the way I see it. Things will be going great and then she will get mad at me for something rediculous. the other day she got mad because I couldnt remember where I put a gift that she had gotten me a year ago. She stayed mad at me the whole night and left me alone at a party where I knew no one. I later remembered that night where it was and told her I knew where it was. She called me a liar and still ignored me. When I got home I found the gift just like I said I would....and I told her I had it. Her reply was simply....well good. She would not apologize even after knowing she was wrong. I do not understand this. Why cant she just admit she made a mistake. She told me today that she feels like all I do is complain to her about never being able to admit when shes wrong...and told me she feels inferior to me. I need help bad....please help!

Answer 1

Get out now.

Answer 2

dump her
why would you even put up with that unless you have low self esteem and think you can't find another girl
girls are like a bus
another comes along every 15 minutes
and that means you don't have to put up with a selfish / bratty girl like the one you stuck yourself with
in restrospect there are always preview signs of a relationship that shouldn't be and your has them
you juct did not see them because you chose not too are are too young and inexperinced with realtionships and thus do not know when to see them and then immediatel staop and take action or leave ( the right thing to do )
keep in longer with this relationship and it will be onesided
and she'll manipulate you at every turn as she is testing you
and you have proven you go to any length to keep from her getting upset ( not a good sign ), pretty soon she hold power over you and ask for things and you'll gladly give them for a mere token of affection

Answer 3

Maybe this will help you gauge your relationship and give you some tips for how you can possibly compromise with her rather than fight:

You most likely will/have fall(en) into the crush/infatuation trap, and you will not know how the person you want/are with truly feels for you since you two seem to be "strangers" to each other (read on to understand), so here is my advice for standards you need to know for when you have/are seeking to be in a SERIOUS life-long relationship and learning the difference between LOVE and LUST. Knowing this will give you a checklist for your current or future gf/bf so you can know if she/he truly loves you and is right for you in every way, physically, and emotionally. Here's my tips for a prosperous relationship:

#1 Know yourself. Know your personality, what types of people will jive well with you and your habits, know your limits, know your strengths, and weaknesses. Once you know yourself, then and only then can you love another.

#2 Never judge a person by appearance. Personality far exceeds how a person may look. If I was judged that way I would never have gotten my soulmate because, yes, I am overweight. Never try to match a person up to your expectations and put them on a pedestal, hoping they will be exactly what you want. People are all different and you must learn to love a person for who they are, not what you wish they were.

#3 Everytime I hear the saying "opposites attract" I cringe because that couldn't be any farther from the truth. For people to be in a relationship with you, both of you should be totally insync with each other on most levels, sure we're not all the same, but the person you love should be your best friend. Yes you heard me say it, BEST FRIEND, as in someone you can trust completely, talk to about ANYTHING and everything, RELY upon, and share common interests. Someone who will always be there for you and accept you no matter what circumstances occur, good, bad, or indifferent. You should also know everything about that person's life, and understand their personality, flaws, good traits, ect. Remember, communication, communication, communication! Know your partner!

#4 All of this takes a lot of TIME to create, a lot of talking and getting to know the person before leaping on them, making out, having sex, ect. This is why most people FAIL at relationships, because they are total strangers trying to make up for a lifetime of not knowing the person they are with, therefore there is no base for trust and sex becomes a temporary mechanism to make people think they have something together, when in reality, they don't. Hence, friendship 1st is absolutely crucial.

#5 Sex. We all want it and need it to be happy, healthy normal human beings. However sex carries strong physical and emotional baggage and one should never rush into it before he/she has met all the above criteria with their partner and both people feel ready to make the leap. Also it is advisable, in this day and age, for both you and your partner to go to a doctor beforehand to ensure you both are free of diseases and the 1st time will be much more pleasant. Be prepared! If you are a female see a gynochologist and find out if sex will be very painful or not and get tips to make your life easier! Also it's good in general to ensure you're healthy and find out about birth control.

I speak from personal experience because I am in a loving relationship that is all of those things and more. The relationship guru has spoken :)

Answer 4

i agree with everyone else get out now she is just bringing you down and it dosent matter what you do sh is still not going to be happy so do something fro yourself and let her go, their are those people that you are only supposed to be wiht fro a certain amount of tima and maybe your relationship has run its course and its time to move on. Just do what is going to make you happy in the long run. Maybe even just take a short break from each other. Dont be irrational think it through and do what you beleive is best.

Answer 5

Wow, I think you are stressing over somebody who does not deserve you. Take a look at her again. Is her personality THAT great that u are so in love with her? This girl is giving you the wrong treatment and you cant seem to see it. But I am telling you right now; when u care about somebody, as much as they piss you off sometimes, you dont leave them aside no matter what. When you love somebody, you try not to get amd at little things becasue all you want is to be happy. Wehn you love someone, you dont remember EVERY thing you have given to them, ( memories or material) because you give it with your heart and you wont let them know constantly that YOU GAVE THEM SOMETHING. You apologize if you know you did something wrong.

Let me tell you something that you might not like but i feel like i gotta let you know the way its looked at from outside:

THIS GIRL SEEMS TO LIKE HAVING YOU IN HER HANDS, SHE LIKES TO BE IN CONTROL OF THE RELATIONSHIP AND SEEING YOU APOLOGIZE FOR EVERY FIGHT SHE CAUSES. AND YOU KNOW WHY? BECASUE THAT MAKES HER FEEL LIKE SHE CAN DO WITH YOU WHATEVER SHE WANTS.

She can leave you alone at that party and what u do? u feel like **** so u start breaking your head thinkin wtf did i do with that gift one year ago? and then when u finally do remember, u go to her and take her home just so she can see that u actually had the gift. Now what u should have done, and im sayin this because I consider myself a good girl for my man, and i would NEVER do something like that to him because *I love him* and if i ever did, i would have expected him to react like this and know that i deserved it for being so rude to that one i am with, you should have pulled her aside and let her know that u had the gift, but u just havent used it in a while thats why you couldnt remember at the moment where it was but u would look for it whenever u guys were back at the house, and if she wants to get mad for stupid reasons then maybe u should return her stupid gift after u find it and look for somebody who will treat you better than that. And u should have left her *** alone in the aprty. maybe that can help her reconsider what shes doin to you.

Honestly, u seem like a really nice guy. and i might be wrong, but she doesnt seem like a girl u want to spend the rest of ur life with, she needs to re order her priorities.
Trust me, a girl who wants soemthing serious, and wants to be withu for real, wont act like that. I know i shouldnt say this but sometimes girls can be really mean when they know they have the guy in their hands.

I say just break up, shes no good, theres many more good girls out there.

but if u dont, then good luck. hope ur relationship gets better.

Answer 6

it could either be a growing pains in your relationship or growing apart. There is more than meets the eyes, if your girlfriend starts getting upset with you for little things. You should sit down and talk with her to get to the bottom of her weird actions. I have a feeling she doesnt feel as much as she used to be about you and trying to find a way out. Good luck.

Answer 7

well if she says shes not as attracted to you, that kinda means shes not enjoying her time with you. and if you always fight over stupid things like where the gift was than thats dmb reason to argue. unless it was something really important to her that she got you like some sort of electronic type thing or jewelry than thats a reason to be upset. if she keeps starting these dumb fights and then doesnt apologize when shes wrong than she either has some issues with herself or shes trying to push you away without actually saying so. this situation seems all too familiar to me cuz i kinda been thru the same thing. dont let her treat you like that. talk to her about it or go your separate ways cuz your only hurting yourself by staying with her.

Answer 8

She's cheating on you. Plain and simple. She's nit picking to get you mad and tired of her so that you will end the relationship and not her. Then when you end it, she can play the victim role and when you soon discover she's with this new person, she will chalk it up to you dumped her so why do you care... . I say get proof before you call her on it and/or make her end it if she wants out. Don't do her dirty work for her. Good luck!

Answer 9

You are both hierarchialists. You think you are priests. You like counting, measuring, determining health by means of body fluids and tapping on furniture. In between times, you are anarchists. You like suppressing your anger as a form of "righteousness" so as to cry and flirt with each other. You are in danger of inducing catalepsy in your right arm.

Do you fight left-handedly or right-handedly?

Answer 10

You know in your heart what the answer is. Time to move on and get respect. She is clearly not happy and no matter what you do, it will be the same. You deserve better and although it is easier said than done, it is time to move on.

Wishing you the best.

Answer 11

She is being hateful towards you because you are drifting apart. Basically, she is picking fights with you and wants to end it. Maybe it's for the best.