Is this love?

Question

Me and my boy friend have been together for 11 mo almost. and last night he told me that he loves me and loves other things too, like fishing and hunting... him and his dad are really close... and i think his dad has told him that he spends too much time with me and he also tells him that i have his balls in my purse! but anyways he would rather go fishing and hunting than be with me. and i seriously base my life around his. i try to spend as much time with him as possible. but im thinking i should'nt be so avaliable. what do you guys think?? im not really a kind of person that will tell anyone my problems but this is kinda bugging me... do you think he really loves me?

Answer 1

If he fits these criteria, he loves you:

You most likely will/have fall(en) into the crush/infatuation trap, and you will not know how the person you want/are with truly feels for you since you two seem to be "strangers" to each other (read on to understand), so here is my advice for standards you need to know for when you have/are seeking to be in a SERIOUS life-long relationship and learning the difference between LOVE and LUST. Knowing this will give you a checklist for your current or future gf/bf so you can know if she/he truly loves you and is right for you in every way, physically, and emotionally. Here's my tips for a prosperous relationship:

#1 Know yourself. Know your personality, what types of people will jive well with you and your habits, know your limits, know your strengths, and weaknesses. Once you know yourself, then and only then can you love another.

#2 Never judge a person by appearance. Personality far exceeds how a person may look. If I was judged that way I would never have gotten my soulmate because, yes, I am overweight. Never try to match a person up to your expectations and put them on a pedestal, hoping they will be exactly what you want. People are all different and you must learn to love a person for who they are, not what you wish they were.

#3 Everytime I hear the saying "opposites attract" I cringe because that couldn't be any farther from the truth. For people to be in a relationship with you, both of you should be totally insync with each other on most levels, sure we're not all the same, but the person you love should be your best friend. Yes you heard me say it, BEST FRIEND, as in someone you can trust completely, talk to about ANYTHING and everything, RELY upon, and share common interests. Someone who will always be there for you and accept you no matter what circumstances occur, good, bad, or indifferent. You should also know everything about that person's life, and understand their personality, flaws, good traits, ect. Remember, communication, communication, communication! Know your partner!

#4 All of this takes a lot of TIME to create, a lot of talking and getting to know the person before leaping on them, making out, having sex, ect. This is why most people FAIL at relationships, because they are total strangers trying to make up for a lifetime of not knowing the person they are with, therefore there is no base for trust and sex becomes a temporary mechanism to make people think they have something together, when in reality, they don't. Hence, friendship 1st is absolutely crucial.

#5 Sex. We all want it and need it to be happy, healthy normal human beings. However sex carries strong physical and emotional baggage and one should never rush into it before he/she has met all the above criteria with their partner and both people feel ready to make the leap. Also it is advisable, in this day and age, for both you and your partner to go to a doctor beforehand to ensure you both are free of diseases and the 1st time will be much more pleasant. Be prepared! If you are a female see a gynochologist and find out if sex will be very painful or not and get tips to make your life easier! Also it's good in general to ensure you're healthy and find out about birth control.

I speak from personal experience because I am in a loving relationship that is all of those things and more. The relationship guru has spoken :)

Answer 2

Well, y'all do spend allot of time together, he still loves you, but his life doesn't revolve around you all the time, probably he needs some space, he needs to be with his family right now, and his friends. He can still spend some time with you, but not allot.

I hoped I helped

Good Luck!

Answer 3

the father sounds jealous, you sound smothering. he might love you, he might not understand what love is, or you don't.

if you love him back you'll let him do his hobbies. the father want's to rebond with his son, you should let him. sometimes you have to do things apart - alone time is important.

i think you should get a hobby of your own. your hobby shouldn't be him only.

so he may love you - but love doesn't mean that your with him 24/7. that when he take a dump, you wipe it for him. people have to breathe - so find a hobby and maybe do it with him. take up photography, you shoot the deer, then let him...

Answer 4

Without playing games, don’t be available 100% of the time or let your life be an open book. A man that comes on too strong or doesn’t have outside interests will scare a woman away just as much as it would if the circumstances were reversed. Read here http://AttractAnyWoman.emuy.info/?5OL4

Women don’t want to feel as though they are completely responsible for your happiness and that is what it feels like when the other person has no outside interests. Men who are overeager or jump when the woman says jump are the ones who are more likely to end up in the friend zone. This doesn’t mean that you should play the game of not calling for a few days; it means that you should set healthy boundaries until you both naturally find a spot for the other in your lives.

Answer 5

None of us can tell you. It's only something that he can feel. But, if you love him back you don't hesitate in thinking it.

Answer 6

well...maybe he loves you...but is possibly scared and is trying to avoid you...the more it seems like hes pushing you away and avoiding you...pull him back in...just dont give up yet!

Answer 7

not that he doesnt love you...he CARES about you, but still want to be able to do the things he loves to do.

Answer 8

idk! srry! but wat i think u shud do is think bout this: if he duzn't luv u, then wat is he doin w/ u????? just lay off him a while and talk 2 him bout it. stop spending SO MUCH time w/ him n' revolve ur life around ur friends mor. Srry its so long!