My son just told me he is gay, what should i do???

Question

By the way i'm a pastor at my church. And completly against homosexuality

Answer 1

Say,when he paces me bey,its a ray of life.
there are thinks we can change,if we can try,
but the injustice are height.

Answer 2

Do not use any discipline. You should love your son unconditionally, even if he is gay, and no matter how religious you are, and even if you are a pastor, he should be treated the same as if he was straight. The reason why I think he should be treated the same as a straight person is because I am a strong believer in separation of church and state, meaning that you should not threaten your son just because homosexuality is against your religion.

Answer 3

Tell him you love him and support him in the choices he makes in life. Homosexuality is against my religion too, but I don't judge people by who they love. Everyone is capable of loving, and it's not anybody's place to tell someone that they are wrong for who they love. Also, I don't think it is anyone's business what people do behind closed doors in their own room. This is my opinion, but they gay lifestyle is different, and the people are different (not in a bad way), most of them are so accepting of people and so loving. Let him bring his friends and/or boyfriends around so you know who he is with. Try your best to be accepting because you don't want to push him away. I have an uncle, a cousin and a close family friend who are gay men, and it's hard for them when they're young or when they first "come out". The best thing to do is to swallow your anger and don't take it out on him. He is who he is, and he is your son. Not a lot of religion is accepting of homosexuality, but we are not God to do the judging.

Answer 4

He's your son, you still love him. He had to come up with a lot of courage in order to tell you. Support him, a good parent will put their child before themselves. Eventually things will be much easier.

I have a gay friend, and then when he told his parents they told him "it's just a phase" the hardest part of coming out for him was that his parents didn't support him at all, he still hasn't completely gotten over the fact they they don't support him.

He sometimes get very emotional to me crying and saying "I don't want to be gay, I wish I could be normal, like you, and have a family someday."

One time it was so bad that I caught him in his dorm room with a knife, he was about to slit his wrist until my friend and I walked in there and stopped him.

What I'm trying to say is that if your son doesn't feel the support from the people who are supposed to always be there for him... it's going to be very hard on him, or something terrible could happen.

Good luck. I'll keep you and your family in my prayers.

Answer 5

Well you could just accept that he's gay,which gives you an opportunity to continue having a decent relationship with your son. Or you could allow the biases created by religious teaching to end up causing tension between you. I would choose the first,I'm not a big fan of homosexuality either but I consider it in no way my right to tell others how to live in that regard. They are who they are,seems we would eventually put all this puritan garbage behind us but I guess we shall see.

AD

Answer 6

ROFLMCLBO!!!!!

OK, I'll bite!

Grab the kid, throw him on the floor and preach them damned homosexual demons out of him! You might have to slap him around a bit, but he's worth it, isn't he? I mean, he's your son! If you're any kind of a preacher, you ought to be able to set him free from his affliction and save his immortal soul!
If that doesn't work, hell, you can always poison him. If you're too weak for that, you can always knock him in the head and drop him off in Westboro....they'll know what to do with him!
Whatever you do, don't let your congregation find out!! Think of all the money it'll cost you!!

Wasn't that the response you were looking for?
Since this was obviously a phony question, I gave you a phony answer.
Have fun with it!!

Answer 7

Then act like a pastor and a man of God, and then remember, you are this young man's father, his Dad... and he just trusted you with the most important information about his life. Now go hug your son. Don't think, don't moralize....go hug your son. Now listen to him and learn something. Love will find a way. God is giving you a chance to show what kind of human being you are....so is your son. Don't let either of them down.

Answer 8

You don't need to do a thing, besides love your son as you always have. Life is hard enough without imposing judgement upon others. Be happy that your son confided in you. This is not the end of his life, it's the beginning of your own where you learn to accept people and now you get the enviable task of convincing others that what two people do in the privacy of their own homes is not anything to be "for or against"....

Answer 9

Mend your ways... now you have to deal with the reality of human nature not religious ideals. Are you against height or IQ too because gay sexual orientation is no more a moral issue than either of those two human variations, all are normal variations.

Or you could build a big bonfire and sacrifice him to your primitive God.

Answer 10

I can only assume that this is a very hard thing. Being a pastor you should understand the importance of listening and not judging your child.

Ask God for wisdom and keep your child in prayer. Best of luck to you.

Answer 11

Tell him you will still love him, but in no way tolerate his sin and his "friend" isn't allowed in your home. But continue to love your son as you always have, and remember that homosexuality is a sin, just the same as lying, cheating, stealing...and we all do it. I am so sorry for you and you are with God and I will say a prayer for you right now.