How do you know if you are in love?

Question

I know, I know...everyone always says, "If you are in love, you just *know.*"

But the problem is...I *don't* know.

So...how do you know if you are love?

Answer 1

If you care about their happiness even more than you do your own...if you see their flaws, but realize that their flaws are perfect, too...if you can love them and not have that feeling depend on whether or not they love you back, just because loving them is a privilege unto itself...

Chances are, you're in love.

Answer 2

Read and learn ^_^

You most likely will/have fall(en) into the crush/infatuation trap, and you will not know how the person you want/are with truly feels for you since you two seem to be "strangers" to each other (read on to understand), so here is my advice for standards you need to know for when you have/are seeking to be in a SERIOUS life-long relationship and learning the difference between LOVE and LUST. Knowing this will give you a checklist for your current or future gf/bf so you can know if she/he truly loves you and is right for you in every way, physically, and emotionally. Here's my tips for a prosperous relationship:

#1 Know yourself. Know your personality, what types of people will jive well with you and your habits, know your limits, know your strengths, and weaknesses. Once you know yourself, then and only then can you love another.

#2 Never judge a person by appearance. Personality far exceeds how a person may look. If I was judged that way I would never have gotten my soulmate because, yes, I am overweight. Never try to match a person up to your expectations and put them on a pedestal, hoping they will be exactly what you want. People are all different and you must learn to love a person for who they are, not what you wish they were.

#3 Everytime I hear the saying "opposites attract" I cringe because that couldn't be any farther from the truth. For people to be in a relationship with you, both of you should be totally insync with each other on most levels, sure we're not all the same, but the person you love should be your best friend. Yes you heard me say it, BEST FRIEND, as in someone you can trust completely, talk to about ANYTHING and everything, RELY upon, and share common interests. Someone who will always be there for you and accept you no matter what circumstances occur, good, bad, or indifferent. You should also know everything about that person's life, and understand their personality, flaws, good traits, ect. Remember, communication, communication, communication! Know your partner!

#4 All of this takes a lot of TIME to create, a lot of talking and getting to know the person before leaping on them, making out, having sex, ect. This is why most people FAIL at relationships, because they are total strangers trying to make up for a lifetime of not knowing the person they are with, therefore there is no base for trust and sex becomes a temporary mechanism to make people think they have something together, when in reality, they don't. Hence, friendship 1st is absolutely crucial.

#5 Sex. We all want it and need it to be happy, healthy normal human beings. However sex carries strong physical and emotional baggage and one should never rush into it before he/she has met all the above criteria with their partner and both people feel ready to make the leap. Also it is advisable, in this day and age, for both you and your partner to go to a doctor beforehand to ensure you both are free of diseases and the 1st time will be much more pleasant. Be prepared! If you are a female see a gynochologist and find out if sex will be very painful or not and get tips to make your life easier! Also it's good in general to ensure you're healthy and find out about birth control.

I speak from personal experience because I am in a loving relationship that is all of those things and more. The relationship guru has spoken :)

Answer 3

Sometimes I think love is when you can't really describe how you feel about that certain someone. Like there are no right words you could say to another person to make them understand what you feel. Its a deep connection between you and a guy that goes beyond appearance and beyond material possessions. LoVe iS mOrE tHaN wOrDs CaN eVeR cOmPrEhEnD

Answer 4

The people who say they *know* they are in love are just too easy to accept things.. there's that sharp pain in your heart whenever you think about them, and it hurts- but you know it feels good.. its like an extreme burst of butterflies .. always thinking about them...in good ways of course, - oh and a really important one- If you want to know everything about them, even though you already know too much.. wanting to be dedicated to them and only them is an important one too.. but honestly?

Love is what YOU make it, its not a REAL thing it's something we made up ourselves. So hell.. Make up what love is for you too, and if this boy means more to you than any other boy.. then hey, guess what. You love him.

Answer 5

well if you've had a crush its like that but more intense

you prob think about them alot, and somethin they can do makes it seem so much worse or better than if someone else did it

say they hug another person you might be jealous wen you normally wouldnt be, or if you hug them it makes you feel way better than if it was someone else

love is really just how you define it, its different for everyone

Answer 6

You can't tell it's love or lust on the early stage of the relationship. It takes time.

Answer 7

do you think of the other person's happiness? can you imagine ever being apart? do they complete you in some way?

can you overlook their quirks? does seeing them happy make you happy? then your in love.

but it will still take time. and trust.

Answer 8

seriously: ask yourself: can i wake up to this person every morning for the rest of my life? if it brings a smile to your face, it's love! :D

Answer 9

who knows. bottom line: do you at least like the person.