tell you the truth -have a feeling what I was in was never a real relationshiip,Help Please and Advice Thanks?

Question

were together 5months - got serious - and he decides to break up cause he had someone else on him mind- I said cool - and 2 weeks later I decided to date someone else i was interested in - he calls me, and starts calling me names, and when i said I loved him, says he does not... I ended that, and started talkin 2 him again, and he gets all shallow and sayin stuff again.... So i leave!!
he shifted countries for his job - calls me a few days later - He's met someone who he's been in love with for 4yrs and He is sorry abt the way i feel for him......
2 months later - gets back with me - 15 days later - gets to to tell him my deepest secret and then decides that I cant be with him cause of this - So i leave...
He flies back to country - 3 months later
begs for us to meet up - I dodged him the 15 days he was in town, and said NO!! not happening - However I wished him on his birthday.... He did not bother on mine!!

contacted my ex after 3 months - after this
i decided to just say hi online -

1st he was very nice to me, and then after sometime, he started to act crazy - he started name calling - he said i was crazy - and then said he is in love with a new women - Not the one he was in love with Last year - I gave it back to him, I gave him a piece of my mind - cause he put me through all this....

however I just don't know why he behaved this way, or what i did to deserve this??

he was so rude,

My question is - I am feeling lost, and like i may never want another one of these things again - cause its devastating - however, I do need to move on - he's been playing with my feelings for 6 months - What do i do? whats your advice and opinions? help please - advice please..

Answer 1

dump him.. and do ways to evade him... he doesnt deserve you... you should be happy... if he says that he'll change then its your call... but calling names... is a big dilemma... being in a relationship, a good relationship doesnt have to call you names... its about unconditional love... respect...

you deserve somebody better... somebody whom you can wake up smiling.. and something to look forward to.. somebody whom you can be comfortable with... Ü

goodluck.. hope this helps... Ü

Answer 2

I don't think you really were either. He seems like a grade A nut. He doesn't know what he wants. But you might want to get away from him and let him find himself.. or his mind. That's not normal for a relationship and I personally would have ended contact a long time ago if this is the consistent behavior.