I'm shy, so shy that I've never had a girlfriend and I'm 20 years old in college. I'd like to meet people (girls), but I always feel like they wouldn't want to talk to me, so I don't bother trying to talk to them. To be honest, I've never initiated a conversation with a girl unless it was for a school project or she was a "just a friend" kind of girl.
2007-03-26 14:12:38 · 10 answers · asked by Wocka wocka 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dude, have some confidence! the reason why people don't want to talk to you is because they see that you don't want to try to talk to anyone.
find out from one of her friends what she likes, and if she has anything in common with you, simply go up to her and said, "hey, I heard you like [insert common interest here]. I really like you. want to go out sometime?" waht's the worst that can happen? she says no? sorry, man, but you're going to be rejected sometimes. don't let that stop you!
2007-03-26 14:19:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel, i was the same way until i got up the nerve one day and talked to some girl and then after that it is not nearly as hard anymore. If you don't even know the girl just see what she is doing and use that. If she is standing in line at burger king looking at the menu, say something like, get the whopper its the best or if she is in a store buying something say you bought the same thing and really like it. Just little things to break the ice, and if it doesn't work, then at least you will have talked to more girls and get more comfortable. and this may sound stupid, but for your first girl you talk to, you may want to pick someone that is totally a stranger and that will likely say no to asking her out, then after that one time, it can't be worse, you can't know anyone less and you can't get anything worse then simply being rejected
2007-03-26 21:30:12 · answer #2 · answered by matt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls do love confidence, but also like a guy who has he's shy moments- but not initially- my boyfriend was exactly the same.
But i approached him in the beginning of our relationship so for him it was easy he just had to keep the conversation going which he found hard. approach by asking how are you? hows you night? dont come on to strong alot of girls think that when a guy approaches her he only wants to get in their pants- so be sure that that isn't what you want initially - you really should TRY to talk to girls more often, practice makes perfect - yes you might get rejected a few times-
the key to look out for is their body language towards you - if you notice a girl looking at you frequently- 80% chance she is interested body language speaks nearly 80% and we only talk the 20% so make sure your body language is approachable as well.... Good luck!
2007-03-26 21:23:47 · answer #3 · answered by just_jemma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a risk. Talk to them about things you look up on the internet, about school, statistics, weather, crime, the president, the war. Subjects are limitless. Start talking with the ones you feel more comfortable with, tho. Don't know what your appearance is, but surely your mom, sisters, cousins can help you with that.
2007-03-26 21:23:58 · answer #4 · answered by solotrovo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get into it. talk a little to someone. yeah you're 20 and I'm not but I'm a girl. I would be flattered if you talked to me. I'm not unattractive but whatever-you get it. I've had one boyfriend and it was serious...what you have to do is make the moves. Ask about something without making yourself feel stupid and go from there. things should fall into place. good luck!
2007-03-26 21:17:44 · answer #5 · answered by Nicole D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk up CONFIDENTIAL and ask them, "Sorry to bother you, I'd just like to ask you a question and I'm keen on hearing a female perspective...." and then ask about something in the news or a local issue.
2007-03-26 21:25:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was the same in 8th grade.....but now in high school its all good...just talk to them like ask what they did in the weekend or how their day was.. then youll eventually break the point where she is comfortable talking to you... remember always be a listener rather than a talker.if you break that point , ask them if they wanna hang out then youll get their #.
2007-03-26 21:17:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If You are Shy ! Then why you need Girl Friend ?
2007-03-27 05:33:20 · answer #8 · answered by Nimi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think of it like a girl who you just wanna be friends with and after ur comfortabl around her ask for her #
2007-03-26 21:17:09 · answer #9 · answered by skitz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my friend believe on urself cas its a well known truth that we tend to be over critical of ourselves....so believe on u and ask someone out and u will see that its not hard afterall...
2007-03-26 21:17:49 · answer #10 · answered by classy!!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋