2007-03-26 14:09:53 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Compromise on a wedding chapel - less fuss for him & nicer & more church like for you - have a minister do a religious ceremony
2007-03-26 14:30:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
There have been lots of excellent points brought up by the answerers! The most important ones being why you each want the type of wedding you want..whether it's a matter of cost or shyness or aversion to churches on your fiance's part. Do either of you even attend church or is this just part of the 'bridal fantasy' on your part? If you are a regular church goer this should not even be an issue.. you get married in the church because that is where sacraments are celebrated. If you aren't there are lots of great locations to get married in besides city hall!
Sit down and talk to him about why he doesn't want the church wedding and why you do... how this is handled will be indicative of how your marriage will continue.
Good luck to you both :)
2007-03-30 10:11:00 · answer #2 · answered by endorable 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would agree that you need to ask him why he doesn't want to get married in a church. maybe he doesn't want something as big and complex as a church wedding can be. if you don't agree with his reason you might want to think about things a little more otherwise you can do what i'm doing...get married in a city park in the gardens..and it's gorgeous..you can always find somewhere other then a city hall or church. remember it's not always about where you have it or what you have to eat..it's the people and the love that people remember the most. they'll remember the look for each other more then the place and decor..it's about the love and starting a life together..and that takes a little compromise to make it work..but it is so worth it in the end...good luck chica!!
2007-03-26 15:16:39 · answer #3 · answered by Sara 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to your fiancee and find out what his reasons are for not wanting a big wedding. Is he the nervous type, does he want the ceremony to be very small and personal, is the cost of a big wedding scaring him, is he absolutley NOT religious and would feel odd in a church.
Talking to one another is the most important thing in a good marriage...get started now and good luck!
Remember that it matters not how you get married if everything in your relationship is on course.
2007-03-26 14:40:27 · answer #4 · answered by bevrossg 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
even tho i'm female i don't always take the girl's side but i think weddings should be her decision, it's your wedding day, [if not you'll always feel a tinge of sadness looking at brides etc. later on in your life]
wear a beautiful dress and get married in church, even a small chapel, carry flowers, it doesn't have to be big or expensive--have your best friend stand next to you in her dress, that's it pure and simple, all over in about 40 minutes, why should that bother him? then all go to to dinner reservations. bring a camera to the rest, you can always get the best picture enlarged later.
this is sweet and romantic, better than city hall.
2007-03-26 14:50:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went to my cousins wedding is Dec and it was at city hall i thought what your thinking Ill CH no way but when i got there i was shocked at how nice it was. My advice it go see what CH look like it yur town. If you dont like it have the wedding at a chapel or on the beach or maybe in the park. GL and Congrats
2007-03-26 14:51:37 · answer #6 · answered by kedra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the marriage place is not important the vows are
we got married in 1963 in a registry office as soon as we where old enough my wife was 16 and 2 months I was 18.
not that we had to but because we wanted to be together for the rest of our lives, we had our reception in my grans house in Llysfaen colwyn bay, tea cakes and jelly, then we toasted with babycham that was the nearest thing to chamagne ,we had grans bed for the night while she slept in my bed,
the next day i was back in work. and she in school its now 2007 and we are still together 4 kids 11 grand children and 2 g grand children.loads of ups and downs. but we never forget our wedding day even though we have no photos,
2007-03-26 15:06:24 · answer #7 · answered by Mr T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do neither... compromise... get married on the beach or some other special place. The point is that getting married is a committment to each other to spend the rest of your lives together. Where you get married is only a small detail. If you can't make this decision together, what will happen later, like when you want to buy a house, or have kids, etc.
2007-03-26 14:21:33 · answer #8 · answered by Caroline N 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
if you guys cant decide whether yuo want city hall or a church do something you both want. possibly an outside wedding or at a wedding hall.
2007-03-26 15:12:35 · answer #9 · answered by Manrae 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called compromise, you do it ALOT in marriage. If you guys can't compromise on what type of ceremony you will have, your marriage won't last too horribly long.
A good compromise here would be a non-demoninational ceremony in a park, or nice building that's not a church. Good luck.
2007-03-26 14:46:24 · answer #10 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋