Relationships.....?

Question

I'm 14 and I have not had a girlfriend yet, not counting kindergarden crushes. Every girl that i like always rejects me. What is the problem?

Well, I have gotten a comment from one of them that I am average looking. I am smart but not necessarily "nerdy" to put it. All of the other people just said taht they liked someone else.

Answer 1

welcome to the real world buddy. Out of allll the girls you'll meet in your lifetime, about 10% of them will like you back. It doesn't sound like much when put that way, but it's a lot trust me. You probably just need more confidence, even though that's kind of a double standard since you get confidence by having a girlfriend (that's not the only way though) but you haven't found a girlfriend yet. Once you hit high school (if you're not in it already) You, as well as girls around you, will start to change their opinions of what they want in a boyfriend. For now, why don't you just hang with your friends who are girls whom you aren't attracted to, they can offer you the best insight.

Answer 2

If you are just average, nothing wrong there, you have to make some kind of impact. You have to do something that makes you stand out. Just walking up to some girl you think looks good and ask them out will never work. You have to have a game plan.

You have to talk to them for a bit before you can make a move like that. Unless you are in a bar with a killer pickup line, which is a killer pickup line only because they are drunk. Being flirty and funny will help you get noticed. Get noticed a few times in a good light. Since you are 14 your in school. Try to sit at her table at lunch. Maybe not right next to her and her friends but relatively close so that you can jump in a conversation if you have something witty to say.

After you have established something that makes you stand out, start looking for signs. Look for big grins when your around. Look for her to watch you when she doesn't think you are paying attention. Look for her to look your direction when she is talking with her friends. These are signs you have made an impact.

Now you try to ask her on a date again.

Answer 3

Sam, the teenage years are filled with insecurities for both boys and girls. Neither have developed the skills of communication or the ability to relax when in the company of the opposite gender. Finding someone who likes you as much as you like her will happen all in its own time. Be patient, you are not alone.

Sometimes people put themselves in situations where they are perceived as pushing too hard to achieve a goal and then become disappointed when they are "turned down".

At 14, you are just beginning to know who you are. Your personality is still developing and altering as you mature and go through new experiences. Each of us mature at a different rate, girls as well as boys.

I think that you would have better success at meeting people or girls in this case, if you began to just get to know someone first as a friend. Find people who share the same interests that you do, hang out and most of all HAVE FUN... develop your friendships and I'm sure there will eventually be others who will notice that you are interesting and fun to be with and some of them will be girls. Good Luck

Answer 4

Trust me you'll be the one when they are 35 they WISHED they had married : ) BUT you'll already be married with children to a wonderful lady you waited patiently for! Dont rush it son, most of them will realize WAY too late what they could of had. Just relax, dont worry about it so much, the right one will come along. May not be tomorrow or even 10 years from now, but you'll find her, Keep your standards high.

Answer 5

Don't worry about it! I'm fourteen too and I think I just got my first boyfriend! None of the guys I liked liked me until now. Just give it time, let things happen. Be yourself, and if you're shy, be yourself with more confidence. Confidence is very sexy.

Answer 6

That depends. You should ask some of these girls that are rejecting you why they won't give you a chance. Then maybe you can gain some insight on what to work on, or what the girls are turning away from.

Answer 7

i was always told "not to look for love...it will come when your not expecting it."

and trust me ..its true.

I met my b/f when i was running away from my ex at a high school dance..and i seen him and was lyk "man i have to talk to him". well i ran into my ex...and he introduced that guy i seen and it turns out that hes his best friend. He asked me to dance and we started talking....

if you have any questions.. just ask! Contact me.

GoodLuck!
Leesha.

Answer 8

maybe your look or appearances? teenagers at this age always looking for how each other look like, ugly or pretty

Answer 9

well you need more information on what you look like and what your personality is then everyone can tell you what is wrong

Answer 10

well it matters how u act around them