I've been dating this girl for a while now and I think she's the girl for me. I love her because she's adventurous and a good person.
Early in our relationship she told me about a threesome she had with with two guys. She said she didn't like it very much but given an opportunity wouldn't rule out trying it again. Also, she's had sex with 10 or 15 guys and she hasn't been sexually active that long.
I have no reason to distrust her in our relationship and she's always been faithful to other boyfriends. I've had sex with quite a few women and have always been faithful, along with a three some. I just feel like that's such a "slutty" thing for her to do.
I understand:
-Much of this is my own insecurities
-Doesn't mean I can't trust her
-There is a double standard, guys get laid, girls give it up
-Her past is her past
I just don't know how to "get over it" it really eats me up but I don't want to have this ruin our relationship because of these feelings of resentment. PLEASE HELP!!
2007-03-26 13:56:11 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well my advice is if your gf likes you enough to tell you about her past then you should just live with it hey she cant help what she did in the past. also its not like shes doing it right now.
2007-04-03 13:54:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that your girlfriend did wrong is telling you about her past. That's never a good idea for a female to do since men have a tendency to judge their partners more harshly than women tend to judge men when it comes to sexual adventures. Case in point, you stating what she did was slutty, when you've done the same thing sexually that she's done. Are you a sl*t too? It's your ego that's the problem here, it's been bruised. You are thinking about those who were there before you and her sexual appetites. She's who you chose, so either get over it or leave her. Those are your choices. In the mean time, tell her not to discuss her previous encounters with you since it's obviously not good for your relationship, and you can't handle it.
2007-04-03 09:35:09 · answer #2 · answered by sustasue 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You know you have answered your own question. Let's be realistic. If she has been faithful to you then that is all you can ask and hope for. Most men want to marry a virgin, which I believe is crazy. I would want a woman with experience. She knows what she wants and should not have any difficulty pleasing you. DO NOT DO THE STUPID THING AND BRING UP WHAT SHE HAS DONE IN HER PAST, ESPECIALLY SINCE YOU HAVE DONE THE SAME THING. YOU ARE NO BETTER THAN HER IN THAT SENSE. Now get over youself. Besides if God didn't create women, who would guys have sex with? HMM!
2007-04-03 09:39:00 · answer #3 · answered by Solomon Grundy 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
The only way you can get over it is to get over yourself. You have to get over your issues with her past, or your perceived "wrongs" with it. You have to confront and slay those dragons.
First, determine why it bothers you so much. They ask yourself why it bothers you. Then ask yourself why that bothers you... do this until you've asked yourself this at least 5 times to get to the bottom of the issue... the real underlying reason it is bothersome to you. Then, fix that.
You've already acknowledged your insecurities about it. You have be become secure enough in yourself to know that you are IT for her. That the other guys and experiences in her past are just that... the past. If they were so great she'd still be with one of them instead of you. You are the best she's come accross. :-)
Besides, think of it this way... if she hadn't had these experiences she'd be a different person, and chances are you wouldn't be attracted to her the way you are now because she wouldn't be the same. You are in love with her because of who she is today, and all those experiences in her past is what has made her the person she is, the person you are in love with. If she was any different you wouldn't be in love with her. And asking her to change would be asking her to cut-off the very part of herself that attracted you in the first place... then would you still love her? No. She wouldn't be the same person.
2007-03-31 09:07:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Threesomes are awesome. No need to make a big deal about them. They are nothing more than alot of very satisfying fun. Have at least one with her, then you are at least sharing the experience and it will be easier to cope with it.
2007-03-27 06:10:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isn't it a slutty thing for you to do too? Take your time and see what happens. Keep sex for the two of you and just the two of you.
2007-04-03 04:36:36 · answer #6 · answered by richmorecock 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have a threesome with another woman then you will feel better
2007-04-03 04:10:29 · answer #7 · answered by Derek 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two dudes...gross!
2007-04-03 01:14:30 · answer #8 · answered by krafty1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋