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I have been with my bf for about a year and 9 months. He doesnt trust me because i kind of cheated on him with my ex. I thought i had gotten over my ex and he told me he did too. Recently my ex called me and told me that he still loved me and that he missed me. I guess i still do feel something for him but im scared to be near him because i dont trust myself around him and i dont want to hurt my bf again. Wut should i do?

2007-03-26 13:51:12 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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Make up your mind. Which boy do you want? You can't have both, so make a final decision and stick with it. If you don't trust yourself around your ex, there's obviously lots of chemistry there. Hard to advise when we don't know why you split with your ex.
If it was a real issue, it won't change, so don't go near him. If it was something trivial in retrospect, go back to him.

2007-03-26 13:57:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

if it's your ex that you have feelings for, you should be with him. You shouldn't string your bf along when you have feelings for someone else. If you cheated on him already, then you don't love him enough to be with him. And you deserve to be with the one you truly love. On the other hand, your current bf deserves better than that, and should have a gf who is loyal to him. So if you still have feelings for your ex you need to decide who you want to be with. Figure out whether or not the feelings you have for your ex are just because you miss him and had a close bond before of if you really still love him. And if you don't love him and really want to make things work with your bf, then you need to stop all contact with your ex! And stay committed to your bf.

2007-03-26 20:57:39 · answer #2 · answered by DRE 3 · 0 0

You are going to HAVE to make a desicion. Do you want to be with your BF or your ex? Not both - its either/or. Your BF deserves to know you only want to be with him and to be faithful to him, or else don't be with him at all. You will only continue to hurt him otherwise. If your BF has been devoted and faithful to you these past almost two years, do the same for him. But if you can't be true to him and your mind constantly wanders back to your ex, then save him the inevitable heartbreak and break it off. A relationship needs trust to work. Without it, all you have is pain.

2007-03-26 20:59:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Well if you still have true feelings for your ex and they aren't just lust maybe you should consider leaving your bf and go back with your ex. However you should also consider the repercussions of your actions. Just don't play with the emotions of your current bf, we maybe guys but we still have feelings. If you do consider talking to your ex make sure to do it in a public place where you are less likely to do something your not suppose to do, or have mutual friends involved.

2007-03-26 20:58:16 · answer #4 · answered by gaitan_78383 2 · 0 0

The way most guys will look at it is, once a cheater always a cheater. If she did it once what is to stop her from doing it again. Sorry to be blunt about it but that is what most guys think. What you need to do is start from scratch. You will have to earn his trust all over again. A part of that process will involve severing your ties with your ex. But it will be a long hard road for you to travel. You need to sit down and have a serious heart to heart with your current B/F. But don't be suprised if he wants nothing to do with you. Sorry but that is how it usually works.

2007-03-26 21:17:23 · answer #5 · answered by Hatchet Man 2 · 0 0

Do u really want to be with ur current b/f? If so, then u have to stop seeing ur ex. Even though you may be attracted to each other the fact remains that ya'll split for a reason.

It's sounds like the current b/f love you otherwise he wouldn't have forgiven u for "kind of cheating" on him. Give the ex the axe!!!!!! Hope this helps!!!

2007-03-26 20:56:52 · answer #6 · answered by redbone9677 2 · 0 0

Still the past should be the past and the present should be taken care of.... you need to be real and realize you are the biggest loser to even sit there and tell people you don't want to hurt your man..cuz you didi it and i think you might do it again...Your weakness is so true to lots of people who been down this line ...personaly from experience the whole thing is not worth running back to unless you feel the reason you all broke up was resolved truly...as for your man now you just need to keep it real and just say that you are sorry but things need to be called off...

2007-03-26 20:58:53 · answer #7 · answered by memjabeana 3 · 0 0

If you can't trust yourself how do you expect your bf to? You should take some time out and figure out how you really feel and who it is that you want and honestly if you can't trust yourself with your ex then that says alot.

2007-03-26 20:55:10 · answer #8 · answered by jimmy_chick78 4 · 0 0

if YOU dont even trust you then how is he? my girlfriend cheated on me about a year ago i only forgave her like 6 months ago so i know that its really hard to get over that. just give him time to trust you. and about the ex, you shouldnt just cut him out, because if he was a part of your life its hard to just forget him, maybe test yourself?

2007-03-26 20:56:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Brake up with your BF. Put yourself in his shoes, you wouldnt want to be with someone that has feelings for an ex. You are not being honest with your man or yourself.

2007-03-26 20:58:10 · answer #10 · answered by ♥vix♥ 3 · 0 0

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