i am almosrt 20 and am going out with 15 year old girl, who claims she is in love with me. I am happy having a reletionship with her but feel our differences will become too strong. has anyone got any advice/past experiences with this kind of reletionship?
2007-03-26 13:35:11 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You better check up on your local statutory rape laws for starters.
Neither one of you has an idea of what you want or what to expect. My advice is to move along now.
2007-03-26 13:41:18 · answer #1 · answered by Jester 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A five year difference in a relationship is not typically a problem. Her age at this point IS a problem. A fifteen year old girl (even if she's "mature for her age") is still on a completely different level than a 20 year old male. She simply does not have the appropriate life experience needed to date someone who has lived his entire teenage years and is now living in and looking toward his adult future.
Wait five years until she is 20 and see if you two still have feelings for each other. The truth is, she is probably not in love with you at all. Many 15 year olds would LOVE to date an older man. So just wait.
And yeah, it's totally illegal. If you have sex with her, you'll be a registered sex offender for life if you get caught.
2007-03-26 13:45:12 · answer #2 · answered by Beth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's mature for her age
it wouldn't be bad accept the Law
I was just sitting at a sorta inspration point w/ a girl 16 or 17 & I was like 19 & The Cops really Hassled me,
Luckilly we wern't haveing sex as in intercourse
But at 20 & 15 ur Not gonna have much of a relationship w/ anybody if ur in Jail,
Haven't ya ever heard 16 will get ya 20
Hey I don't make the rules
I Think they should have claus that the 18 rule doesnt apply oif ur within like 3-5 yrs difference (but they Don't)
I mean what happens if ur both 17 & one turns 18 huh grrrrrrr
2007-03-26 13:47:47 · answer #3 · answered by forgivenbadboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is way too young to have a real relationship with you, at that age they change boys like they change their underware. You are old enough to go out drinking and stuff and she can't. I'm not sure how you could possibly have a good relationship at that age they love everyone and i should know i had 3 older bf when i was young. I think the only reason the guys were with me was because i was naive and they took advantage of that. This girl is way too young for you and you need to find someone closer to your age.
2007-03-26 13:44:37 · answer #4 · answered by jimmy_chick78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It rarely keeps working because of the differences, you are at 2 very different points in your lives. At 15 she's still very caught up in all the selfcentered highschool stuff with parents paying for everything, she's probably not working or driving, while your probably working or in school with a lot of extra priorties.
What I've seen is it ends up in a lot of fights, the girl can't grasp that she's not the most very important thing in your life, and that you have to go to work and can't take extra time off to spend with her, so she feels underappreciated etc.
Just what i've seen with alot of friends, but good luck either way!!
2007-03-26 13:41:22 · answer #5 · answered by texas hearts 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At the age she is now it is too young. In 5 years from now, it would be fine. She will have matured a lot. She still has a lot to go through. Lets face it, 25 and 20 is not a bad combination.
2007-03-26 13:39:36 · answer #6 · answered by mlock123 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Minus the legal problems, yes there is a whole world of differences between you two. I have enough difference between my boyfriend and I. I'm 22 and he'll be 25 in a few months.
Just remember when YOU were 15. Compare him to you NOW. I'll bet there are A LOT of differences.
Wait a few years, I suggest.
2007-03-26 13:40:45 · answer #7 · answered by Jessica C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I'd end it. You see, you're both different. You're 5 years older than her, and she is very young, with changing tastes. I was 19 and dated a 16 year old. I was happy and content...until he cheated on me and treated me badly. We had nothing in common anyways. So save yourself the trouble. Also...do you really think a 15 year old knows what love truly is?
2007-03-26 13:40:36 · answer #8 · answered by Maico 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take it slow hun, you will find a lot more women as you get older!!!
With the 5 yrs gap, there's nothing wrong. But I think she is too young to get into a serious relationship, and both of you can have a strong urge to go more than what you 2 should be doing. Think of your future and her future too.
Enjoy your youth, both of you will have more fun as you get older.
2007-03-26 13:47:57 · answer #9 · answered by whitehaze412 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am now 21, but i still remember what it was like to be 15... 15 year old girls are too young to really understand what love is... and tend to "fall in love" with every guy they crush on... even at 21, i'm still not sure that i really know what love is... if you two are happy and having fun, there is no reason to leave her. however, if you are having doubts, you are having them for a reason, so those doubts shouldnt really go on ignored...
good luck...
2007-03-26 13:42:00 · answer #10 · answered by dead in hollywood 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋