help with sister problem?

Question

ok. my sister is older than me. so she gets more priviledges. i am ok with that. until when my mom says jessie (sister) gets more time on the computer or like when i used to go on the computer alot, my sister got to go on more 2. until jessie was on longer. i say this to my mom and she says stop tattiling on your sis! she says im still on longer. she always lets her off the hook. and my sister didnt let me in my own basement. my mom was okay with it. its really bugging me. i talk to my mom but it doesnt help. ?????????????

Answer 1

i understand how you feel i have a older sister and i always thought she gets more priviledges than me, but what i think you should do is dont act imature about it, talk to your mother without yelling or anything show her that you are mature about anything and its kinda like acting older then your age. what ever you do, dont cry that drives parents crazy, they think if you cry that you are being imature and that your are a little baby, and wont give you more priviledges. try it, trust me!

Answer 2

I am an older sister and I always thought that my YOUNGER sisters got more priveledges! Something to learn is that LIFE IS NOT FAIR!!!

If you genuinely believe that your sister is getting more time on the computer than you are, perhaps you could try to document the time that she spends on it and the time that you spend on it. Sometimes, it feels like things are not balanced, but when we actually look at the scales we realise that things aren't as bad as we thought! Of course, it could be that your sister DOES spend more time on the computer than you do. But if this is the case, your documentation will provide the PROOF of the imbalance!

It could also be useful to show HOW time is being spent on the computer by each of you. If your sister is spending more time on the computer and using that extra time in chat rooms or playing games, while you are not able to get homework done, then you have a justified case for asking for your parent's help in resolving the problem. But if she is doing homework and you are just looking for recreation time, then perhaps it is right that she gets the extra time? I know it might not seem fair, but if you try to present the evidence in an objective and rational manner, you will have a LOT more success at changing the rules. Even if you want to play games while your sister is doing homework, you still have a right to access the computer and if there is a clear imblanace in time, your parents will be able to help schedule the time so that you get some FAIR access to the machine!

You might even get your parents to help out with your documentation by encoiuraging them to have a logging system for the computer where you each get specific time(s) to do specific activities on the machine. Perhaps 4 to 6 each evening is your time and your sister gets 7 to 9, or something along those lines. That way, you each know WHEN you can have access to the computer and scheule your work accordingly ...

As a final precaution, when you are dealing with adults, you have to think like adults! So try to make your argument based upon FACTS rather than emotions. If you do that and show that your sister DOES get more time on the computer than you do, then I would bet that things will work out in your favour!

Good luck with sorting out your problems. Ultimately, though, your sister is your sister for life! She may drive you as NUTS as my sisters did! But a sister is a pretty good thing to have when you need her!!!

Answer 3

In every family, it is a fact that someone is the favorite child. But I don't think your mom loves you less. Try to get your mom's attention by doing something your sister doesn't do like doing more chores in the house and by being extra nice to your mom. Hope it works.

Answer 4

I know exactly what you feel, you should talk to your mom and sister. I also have an oldr sister and we also intend to fight each other everytime. My advise is that be open to your mother and sister talk to them in a nice way before the time comes that you'll be far from them.