im 13 and everyone else i know has a bf or gf. im so behind!!! my parents say no to dating young, but i think im mature enough. i know the dangers of dating and would NEVER even KISS a guy. until im married of course. any advice???? HELP!!!
2007-03-26 13:04:15 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You say that now... but the pressures of dating someone are a lot. I can tell you that there is a lot of drama with dating someone when you are young. I had one friend who really, really liked this guy (as far as she was concerned they would get married when they were older). He told her that if she didn't have sex with him, he would break up with her. So she did as she didn't want to lose him. In the end they broke up anyway because he decided that things were getting too serious. You might say that it won't happen to you, or you wouldn't do that to stay with a guy but it's a lot of pressure when you like someone!
Just because you are not dating someone doesn't mean that you are behind... trust me in the end not dating yet is a blessing.
I too wasn't allowed to date when I was your age. I was finally allowed to date at 16. It was a blessing in disguise, because while all the other girls were dating, breaking up, and being broken up with I could be there for them... without having to do through all that drama myself.
2007-03-26 13:13:52 · answer #1 · answered by Super Babe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Em,
Stop pressuring your parents to allow you to date. What you should be doing is observing your other friends in their relationships. Actually you are more in tune than they are. At 13, dating is not as serious as you think. Dating @ your age, may take your mind off of more important things such as school, keeping up your appearance and again your grades..
Trust your parents on this.. You will be fine and when they say it's O.K. then and only then should you choose the right guy! Right now it may be O.K. to have a few GUY friends to talking to on the phone and @ school BUT if your parents say no, then for now you should chill.
They want to see you move through life a little slower and soon they will allow you a chance to have a boyfriend. Do not rush this one.. take your parents advise and WAIT.. you will be fine in the end. Be obedient and love them regardless.
Take care!
2007-03-26 13:15:17 · answer #2 · answered by KeraniBai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel but you know parents do it for a really good reason. They don't want you to get hurt or taken or anything like that. And who knows you say that you won't kiss a guy but what if the guy tries to kiss you and you can't help it but kiss him back. So maybe your parents are right and it's not always good to go with the crowd. Because then in the future you will not regret anything.
2007-03-26 13:09:20 · answer #3 · answered by singing_chick101 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
u say u wouldnt do anythihng like that but the entire situation can change in an instant! ur parents dnt want u making a mistake. u shuld really think y u want a bf at 13, if u rnt thinkin of something longterm and serious then u want a bf for the WRONG REASONS!
2007-03-26 13:09:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
To be honest with you 13 is to young to date. I don't blame your mom and dad for not letting you date there doing the right thing they are looking out for you. your still so young boys should be the last thing on your mind. finish school enjoy life. Do the right thing don't try and do what your friends do. be smarter then that.
2007-03-26 15:28:19 · answer #5 · answered by christina b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am 15 and am not allowed to date and thats not a big deal because i dont really care for it. and you are 13 and there are many other things like school you can be stressing over so concentrate on that for now. and you arent behind i know a ton of people who are like 18 and havent started dating so get over it and when you are my age i bet your parents will reconsider. good luck =]]]
2007-03-26 13:09:25 · answer #6 · answered by mary m 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your too young. And Yes you would kiss a guy before you were married. Who are you kidding? Why would you marry a guy that you didn't even know there were sparks there?
Plain and simple. ......Your too young.
There are 11 yr olds having kids out there! Be thankful your parents are being responsible!
2007-03-26 13:09:57 · answer #7 · answered by redsoxmom1979 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well sweetie, let me tell you , i have three daughters of my own,,the oldest one thirteen...they re all beautiful,,as im sure you are...take it from me and im a grown man(parent)guys can be terrible...im not saying that your week or anything but the male in most cases are stronger than female...and when your with that guy who is looking for more than a note at school,,or a phone call...it can be scary..so look at it from a parents point of view...we've been there done that and love our children more than anything in the world..take your time because you still have alot of growing up to do..and plenty of time for boys later...
2007-03-26 13:18:32 · answer #8 · answered by johnnyr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if there is a particular guy you really like you should simply hang out. don't tell your parents its a date, just "hang out" with him. YOu can call it a date, but dont tell your parents that. Then one day you can even introduce him to your parents, to show them how much of a cool guy he is. Be patient with them, they'll get the hang of it. Theyr'e just scared. Your only 13, my first date was when i was 15.
2007-03-26 13:09:32 · answer #9 · answered by Keelie 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Honey...you are way too young to start dating. Yes..you may think you are mature and maybe you are but you need to just concentrate on school and making friends and having fun.
2007-03-26 13:08:19 · answer #10 · answered by susie 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋