How do I let our guests know we want money instead of gifts for on our Wedding Invitations?

Answer 1

Asking for cash gifts is tacky, no matter how cleverly some people think it can be done. It's always, always, always wrong to request cash only gifts (or any gifts really) on a wedding invitation and there are no exceptions to this rule.

The only acceptable way to make your wishes known is through word of mouth. You can tell your family members and your bridal party that if anyone asks, you'd prefer cash, but this should NEVER be in writing.

Never.

Answer 2

I suppose that instead of a picture of yourselves or hearts or flowers or whatever you were thinking of putting on the invite you could replace it with a beggars bowl...

It is never appropriate to mention gifts AT ALL on the wedding invitation. As others have already mentioned word of mouth in regards to your preference for cash is really the only way to spread the news... and yes for some people it WILL be a relief to not have to go shopping.. but personally I don't want to contribute to someone's beer and pizza parties and would rather make the effort to give something that will be around for a while!

Answer 3

You definitely don't put any requests for anything on the invitation.
You are not actually meant to put any registry things in the envelope with the invite either it is meant to be found out through the bridal party and your families telling people (I think this is rather impractical)
I am in New Zealand and things seem to be a lot more relaxed here. So this is what I would do, as I am going to be wanting teh same thing except money for our honeymoon:
Because Sam and John have been living together for sometime they have all they need in terms of house hold goods. Instead, if you would like to contribute to their honeymoon this can be done at......."

Good luck. It probably will upset some uptight people but it's your day. Just make sure you say what the money is going towards - house/honeymoon/car etc. Otherwise it will seem a bit odd and rude.

Answer 4

You can't put that on your invites. It's just not right and very rude. What you can do though is tell your parents and wedding party what you want and let them spread the word. They are the ones who will be giving you wedding showers and they can tell the guests that you want money. But be sure that you tell them why you want money, to buy a house, honeymoon, etc., so that they can tell the guests. Hope it works for you! Good Luck!

Answer 5

Unless you want to look like greedy poor trash, you don't do it. I'd throw away any wedding invitation that I received that did this and send the couple a big non expensive hand written card.

This is completely against ALL etiquette guides. No matter how many people tell you it's ok, it's NOT.

Register someplace with an easy return policy. Target is a great one. Then, you can exchange your gifts for things that you need or for credit so that you can buy a new bicycle or all of Adam Sandler's movies or milk and cereal.

And, you can also register with a honeymoon registry. You pick out things that you want on your honeymoon and your invitees help to pay for them. http://www.honeymoonwishes.com/

From there, you can ask your parents and MOH to spread word, ONLY to people who ask, that you prefer cash for X purpose. It SHOULD NOT be in writing anywhere and you SHOULD NOT have the information offered up to anyone before it is asked for.

Good luck in your wedding and your marriage! : )

Answer 6

Many people say it's rude to do so, but if done properly it can be nice. My sister went to a wedding where the bride and groom didn't want any gifts and they worded the invitation so that it said something about gifts not being neccessary but monetary gifts would be accepted. But they did it in such a way that was very elegant and didn't sound rude at all. Unfortunately she can't remember the wording and no longer has a copy of the invitation. Which really annoys me because i was considering doing something like that.

Answer 7

You cannot do this on a wedding invitation!
It would be extremely rude!

What you can do if anybody asks you what you want you can tell them money but make sure that you give them a reason for the money....like when we got married we needed a new dishwasher. I told people not to buy us gifts, but they insisted so I suggested Best Buy gift cards if they persisted. It worked great. We had enough to pay for the dishwasher in full.

If you ask for money on/with your invitation people will think that you are only inviting them for their gift. That is a terrible message to send. If you feel that way...you should alope.

Answer 8

Sorry, but you can not request anything other than your guests presence in a wedding invitation!!! You'll just have to run the risk of a guest actually purchasing you something...the horror!!!

Answer 9

Other people won't mind giving you money than spending time choosing gifts and trouble of wrapping them. If you got a wedding gift registry (services being offered by shops), choose few items you both like and once it was chosen and taken by other guest am sure there's not much choice for other guests, so money will be their alternative gift.

I will suggest to add this last line at the end of the invitation:

"Monetary gift will be highly appreciated, Thank you."- (couples name)

Hope it will help... It works with my sister's wedding!

Answer 10

You do not ask for cash. The is wildly inappropriate, and if I got an invitation that said that, I would rethink whether I'd attend at all.

Most people do give cash as wedding gifts anyway, so asking accomplishes nothing positive, and people will still give you actual gifts even if you do ask for cash. So, please, mind your manners and don't mention cash on an inviatation.