Ive been going out with this girl for about 6.5 months. everytime we fight she becomes violent, verbally abusive and uses every little thing she knows about me against me. Las night she threatened to call my parents and tell them verything (I wanna come out at my own time). My mom has cancer and we just have too many things going on to upset my parents even more. How can I ask my parents to change my number without making them suspicious? How do I stop this? I just want this girl to leave me alone, but she wont!
2007-03-26 12:41:57 · 21 answers · asked by ampudiaveronica 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you have to be honest with your parents. I think you need to tell them that this girl has been abusive to you and you feel threatened by her. Due to that you would like to change the phone number or have her number blocked. Explain that you are no longer going to see her or have anything to do with her.
Honesty is the best policy.
2007-03-26 12:46:32 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your girlfriend has borderline personality disorder. I don't know how old you are but if you have to ask your parents to change your number I have to guess you are underage. Tell your parents she is a friend who is pressing you for a relationship that you don't want to have anything to do with and you are afraid. You do not have reveal that you were a couple. You need someone's help and if you do not ask for it this girl is going to end up hurting you. Start a diary of what has happened, write everything you can remember and add any new abuse. If she threatens you or actually attacks you call the police, it is not going to just go away. Your mom may have cancer but that does not mean she won't want you to be taken care of. Please take care of yourself because people who behave this way can be very dangerous.
2007-03-26 12:53:09 · answer #2 · answered by future dr.t (IM) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're a lesbian? That's hot.
Anyway, what you've got is a type of physical abuse related to spousal abuse and domestic abuse. I'm not sure exactly what it's called between unmarried couples. But it's illegal nonetheless.
tell your... don't even call her your girlfiend anymore. You're through with her. Tell her she's being too violent and if she doesn't stop and go get counseling, you're gone. Tell her this during a calm moment. If she refuses, ALLOW her to bruise you, if you don't have bruises already (but allow her to without seeming like it). When your parents question the bruise, tell them this girl beat you up and that she HAS been doing it. If they ask why, either tell them right out you were going out with her, or tell them she's crazy or something and SEEMS to think you were going out. you used to be friends. Then she got violent. It's true enough.
She can get arrested for it. If you get really tired of it (after you have tried to get her to quit) go to the police. They can give her a warning if she's not actually hitting you, but if they arrive in the middle of a fight, they can and usually will arrest the person.
Going to the police is your best bet.
Dnttri2 is absolutely right also, so listen to her too. There's alot of good advice and info here.
Email me if it persists, and/or let me know when it stops. jerrywelch111@yahoo.com
2007-03-26 13:23:30 · answer #3 · answered by WolfMage 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I thought you were a guy, I didnt even look at the avatar.... you need to come clean to your parents. I know it sounds cliche but they are your parents and I would think they will love you no matter what once they get over the confusion/blame/hurt (it all depends on how your family feels about it to begin with). Whats going to happen if the worse case senerio occurs concerning your mom (god forbid)? You wont want to be open to anyone about your sexual preference because everyone will be upset about her too. Stop making excuses and be honest with your family, they deserve that much. I hope you learned your lesson with this girl! If she persists just get a restraining order against her. If you are living in your parents house then tell them she went crazy and obsessive and you'd like to get your number changed and you'll pay for it. (It does take awhile to become active and your parents will have ALOT of people to call to inform them of the change, talk about inconvenience)
2007-03-26 12:50:28 · answer #4 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First get out of this relationship now and do it decisively. Don't answer her calls, don't talk with her, don't fight with her. Give her no ammunition. These people will keep sucking you in until you have no life of your own and no self esteem. Tell your parents about her dramatics and hysterics and get them on the same page with you. Don't talk to her, hang up the phone etc. If she comes to your house call the cops or have your parents call her parents. If you approach it sane and rational with your parents they should take anything she says with the approach that she is just a a person who is being ugly because you don't want to be involved with her anymore.
2007-03-26 12:50:38 · answer #5 · answered by Cami J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a hard question.....if you dont want your parents to know anything about it you should just tell them that you keep getting harassing phone calls and would like to change your number, but, you really should tell them what is going on. your girlfriend sounds kinda scary and it would probably be best to fill your parents in on the details. they can help you with it.maybe you could go to just your dad and let him know some of it. tell him she was a friend or something to that affect. if you are gay, you might be surprised that your parents might have already known. we have good intuition ya know.
2007-03-26 13:12:03 · answer #6 · answered by lisa k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bypass to the police suitable away. they're going to a minimum of inform you what your strategies are. I actually have a stable feeling that they might have something for you, which will scare your disgusting ex boyfriend into retaining those photographs to himself. stable success, and that i'm hoping he gets help because of the fact he sounds mentally sick or retarded or something. edit: plus, if he has relatives the place you reside, bypass tell them approximately what he's doing so as that they're going to seek advice from him. If his relatives is in Cyprus, bypass to Cyprus and tell them so as that he can't wreck out with what he's doing. in spite of in case you should spend some funds to bypass there, do exactly it. If he knows that his relatives knows he's being a psycho, he would be scared at the instant probably.
2016-12-15 09:35:26 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have a friend private call for a day or 2 as a courtesy caller....make it annoying and just say it wud be better to change the number....or just tell the grl to back off if ur not interest she has no rite to go to ur parents....hope it helps
2007-03-26 12:48:55 · answer #8 · answered by angelxxdevil2005 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you can the phone company block her number. you could also tell your parents that you keep getting wrong numbers and people prank calling your phone. or... just turn your phone off. break your phone and when you go to get a new one say "hey how about a new number" honesty also works too though.
2007-03-26 12:47:42 · answer #9 · answered by beautifulbunny0286 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break off the friendship with this girl immediately and do it in a kind way. If she continues to bother you, contact her family and tell them about the situation. Otherwise, report it to the police.
2007-03-26 12:46:50 · answer #10 · answered by annvictorblue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋