He caught me on accident and he wont trust me?

Question

My bff is a guy and right now im dating one of his best friends. i love my bf very much and would never want to hurt him. one night i was at my bff's for a dvd night with him and my bf... my bf wasnt there yet and it was just me and my bff. suddenly he turned to me and started professing his feeling for me out of nowhere, and just as my bf walked through the door he leaned in and kissed me. i just froze and had no sense watsoever and didnt push him away like i should have, and just sat there llifelessly wondering how i was going to get out of this. my bf glared at me and stormed out of the house, leaving behind the chocolates he had brought for me and the new dvd he had brought for my bff. i dont know what to do! i didnt try to hurt him and now i cant talk to him or my best friend. plz help!

all i need is help to get his trust back and how to apologize without him storming off

Answer 1

Sounds like your best friend timed that just right. He knew your boyfriend was on his way over. The only way your going to get your boyfriend to believe this is if your friend tells him the truth.

Answer 2

If your bf is refusing to talk to you why don't you write him a letter, it's probably the fact that he's still in shock as he trusted you's and his friend ruined that trust. You should really have told your bff that you are with your bf and that you and him were only friends and that would be how it is. As for your bff i wouldn't want to talk to him anyway he just broke up your relationship and obviously hasn't bothered telling your bf that it was his fault not yours. Write your bf a letter and hand deliver it to him and ask him to read it, say to him look i know that you are really angry with me at the moment but i need you to either listen to me or read the letter so that you know the truth about the other night, that it wasn't your fault and didn't want it to happen but you were in complete shock. Being honest is probably the only thing you can do here to repair the realtionship and you will have to build your trust back up so don't expect that to happen in a day or two and be patient with him if he gets cranky. As for your bff that friendship sounds like it's over now if he won't even talk to you.

Answer 3

it sounds like you have a tough one there. its going to be hard because you have your bff and bf, friends them self. i would not try just yet to talk to your boyfriend let him blow off some steam. in the mean time, think what you are feeling now. do you have feelings for you bff? or to do have feelings just for your boyfriend?because with out knowing that you cant fix the problem.if you just like your bf you need to tell the bff how you feel and that nothing will happen between you again. that what happened was a mistake. but if you have feelings for your bff. well tell your bf right away before he trys to get back together or his feelings grow stronger. you don't want to hurt him but you cant keep him guessing. the air needs to be cleared, but you must figure out long and hard what you want. and have a long talk with them both. if you wan thim back you have to give him time and go at his pace.if he really cares for you he will talk to you and work things out when hee calms down

Answer 4

okay, wait a minute...how is this your fault? what did you do wrong again? you didn't kiss him back, you froze in shock. I am not sure how you are the one left out in the cold. you didn't do anything and if your bff making a play for you is all it took for your bf to stop talking to you, then your bff did you a big favor by showing you the kind of guy your bf is. which makes me wonder: ya think he did it on purpose to break you two up to clear the way for him to be with you? I mean it isn't like he didn't know your bf was on the way over. you need to think about that and if either one of them tries to give you sh*t you tell them both you have no idea how this happened, you were just hanging out waiting for your bf to show up and the next thing you know your bff is spilling his heart out and getting all up in your stuff. tell them it's between them and you want no part of it! stay strong girl and let them fight it out over you and you decide if you even want either one of them.

Answer 5

If you sat there froze stiff, then your BF should have no trouble accepting that your bff moved in on you, and you did not do anything. He walked in and saw what he saw, he has a right to feel the way he does, but he does not know your side and you need to tell him. Talk to them both on a seperate basis and tell your bff that you love your man and do not want to hurt him in anyway.

Answer 6

Well only thing you can do is try and talk to him, maybe your bff didnt explain the things right and he said you guys kissed or something, just tell him you were on shock and you couldnt believe he was doing that to you thats why you couldnt move. Now... Did you kissed him back??? Bc if you did then thats it, is over and move on. Try talking to your bff and see if he can help getting back together w your bf. Good luck...

Answer 7

sounds like your bff was doing some manipulating. he knew your bf was headed over there and most likely planned this to happen. i certainly wouldnt contact him. not much of a bff. if you are truely sorry and dont have a history of this i would consider writing your bf a letter and pointing this out. dont push and give him time. he may have been harboring jealousy and doubt all along considering the opposite sex friendship that you have now validated.

Answer 8

This is what i mean by the "oh we're just FRIENDS" thing being played to death.A guy does NOTspend qaulity time with a girl if he is NOT romantically intrested in her unless it is a relative, or he is gay and has the hots for her b/f.You should date your best friend, not have b/f and then a best friend, your b/f should BE your best friend.Having other guys over and alone with you is asking for trouble when your seeing someone else, it stretches the ropes of trust to their breaking points and if you play with temptation long enough, it will eventually defeat you.

Answer 9

Wow sounds just out of a movie..lucky girl ! well this will be hard, and the only one that can really clear this is your bff..youre going to have to tell him to tell your bf what happened that day and hope all goes well..or you can try explaining it to your bf and if he loves you he will believe you..

Answer 10

obviously ur bff has had the hotts for u and was trying to break u up... dont talk to ur bff but definitly ur bf!!! leave messages saying how it wasnt ur fault it was his tell him if u could do it over u would and if u could u would slap him... tell him that u were in shock and totally sorry!!! its soo ur bff's fault make ur bff talk to ur bf telling him what happend and this is the only time u should talk to ur bff and ur bf should totally listen to u and maybe he should give u another chance...