I love him with every being of my mind, body and soul, but he's not ready to date (divorced about 2 years ago). So basically I have made him my "fantacy lover". An affair in my mind. I am making myself absolutely miserable and I can't stop. I want to say "Please do something to make me hate you" but I could never do that. HELP!
2007-03-26 12:29:06 · 4 answers · asked by EsteeIsFrench 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Please stop driving yourself crazy. Do some soul searching and give yourself a reality check. If he is not ready, there is nothing you can do to make him so. We all have our own pace. I've been divorced for a little over 2 years myself and being in a serious relationship scares me to death! I know I'm not ready for that..I am starting to settle in and taking control of my own life and sorting out my wants and needs. Maybe he is doing the same? Relax and enjoy your friend and take things as they come. No rush. Relax and enjoy your life..Life is too short to be all nerved up all the time. Good luck. :)
2007-03-26 12:44:33 · answer #1 · answered by no cutesy name : ) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very hard to stop those type of ( Relationship ) day dreams from playing it self out in your head. It could be a case that you must have loved that person too while he was still married.
Before you take that plunge into the ( unknown ) if I'm correct in saying so; as the reason of the break up is important to know, bear in mind that there are two sides to every story. He have his version of things about his fail marriage as well as his ex wife.
Base on what you find out you owe it to your self to be prudent as you don't want some one with emotional baggage that can be a quagmire in your life. If children are involve in the circle of things all of those things you have to think about.
Listen to your gut feelings and don't let the uptopia in your head get the better of you.The choice is yours to make as to what role this man will play in your life.
2007-03-26 12:43:29 · answer #2 · answered by Premio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your living a fantasy life in ur mind... its deff not the real thing... just stop thinking about him and find a real guy to date and have ur mind on... there are many other guys out there that would love to date a girl like you..I certainly dont know a man that doesnt want to date after being divorced for 2 yrs... that is a long time..forget about him... it seems u live a very lonely life and u deserve to have a dinner and go dancing with a real guy that cares.. take care ok..
2007-03-26 12:36:22 · answer #3 · answered by gina B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep your fantasies for your alone time,
while you explore other options in the dating scene..
2007-03-26 12:37:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋