Another chance or ditch?

Question

Person A and Person B meet through a dating agency.

A doesn’t really think much to B but agrees to a second date. The second date is better and a third date is arranged. When A gets to the third date A finds that B will not be there but, unknown to A, has arranged for C to stand in. C is 50 minutes late and is extremely rude to A, A gets up and leaves. There is a complaint about B's conduct sent to the dating agency.

The dating agency arranges a date for A with D. A and D have a good first date and D makes it very clear that D would like A to make a life changing choice. A likes D a lot but isn’t ready to make such a decision. D says not to worry and that D will arrange everything, ceremony, catering, celebrant etc. A replies that A needs some say and at least a veto. D agrees and says a meeting to agree all arrangements will be held 3 weeks before the ceremony.

A now finds that D has booked the hotel room but nothing else. D is away until the ceremony eve.

Should A give D another chance or ditch now???

Answer 1

Well from the way it sounds, A needs to get their priorities straight. Does A really want to do this even though A barely even knows D?

A needs to figure out what is best for A and do what A thinks is best.

Answer 2

Ditch!!!!!, IS A MUST, all good things come to those who create situations, so ditch, second of all, why would D away till the ceremony, no communication in between, sounds bad, and believed it, why would someone booked the hotel room and nothing else, it should be the other way around, everything else then the hotel room, then it sound more attracting, so ditch, when he/she call, say that you're in a very bad situation in life, and would like to take time off. good luck!

Answer 3

This is too screwed up. Ditch. Meet a person outside of the dating agency. The fact that you could refer to these people as "B,C, and D" is scary. Way too cold of an approach to things.

Answer 4

Sounds like D is not that committed to reassuring A...(if I followed it correctly) But confront D, before ditching D. You need to be honest, there may be an explaination. If D, just didnt do it, I would REALLY evaluate what on earth A is really doing with D!

Answer 5

ditch now. A just went on one date with D and now D wants A to make a big sacrifice for D? Doesn't sound like a great person to me. Especially if A doesn't really want to.

Answer 6

How difficult is this ? D wants a roll in hay. (Many men on dating services are simply there looking for a female who is desperate enough to take any line offered and give up sex in return.) Why on earth would A give him another chance ? A needs to have a little respect for herself.

A also needs to find a new dating service.

Answer 7

Why did you include B and C in your question? Are they relevant?

Also, are you talking about marriage? Don't marry someone you hardly know, that almost never works out, and don't marry someone you don't love! If "D" is right for you, they will wait until you know eachother better and you're 100% ready to make that kind of commitment.

Answer 8

wow... thats a scary situation... i dont think you should go through with it this time. if he isnt willing to actually make the arrangements then he must not really be commited as a good fiancee should be. if you still love him, take the time to have BOTH of you plan it, to make sure the job gets done and your not sitting in a sinking boat the eve b4 the ceremony.

Answer 9

I tuned out half way through your third paragraph.

My advice is to date people with names, instead.

Answer 10

sounds like a freak, leave the country and don't leave a forwarding address. Would have been easier to understand if you hadn't included b & c, they seem to hold no relevance to a & d, unless A&C were D&C!