HELP!!!! i made out with my boyfriends best friend well hes my best friend too (Twice i've done it now) and my bfs been blowing me off lately he doesn't know what i did but i need some advice on it please someone help...hes such a sweet guy and i don't want to hurt him but i think i care for the other guy more and i need a way to dump him because i've never needed to dump a guy before and i still want him for a friend.
2007-03-26 12:07:37 · 39 answers · asked by Kitty M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That's not called being confused, that's called being a sl*t.
2007-03-26 12:11:21 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Sir 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
"Three important rules for breaking up, don't put off breaking up when you know you want to. Prolonging the situation only makes it worse. Tell him honestly, simply, kindly but firmly. Don't make a big production. Don't make up an elaborate story. This will help you avoid a big tear jerking scene. If you wanna date other people, SAY SO! Be prepared for the boy to feel hurt and rejected. Even if you've gone together for only a short time and haven't been too serious. There's still a feeling of rejection when someone says she prefers the company of others to your exlusive company. But if you're honest and direct and avoid making a flowery emotional speech when you break the news, the boy will respect you for your frankness and honestly, he'll appreciate the kind, straight forward manner in which you told him your decision. And unless he's a real jerk or a crybaby....you'll be friends!!!!" -Popular (Nada Surf)
2007-03-26 12:15:14 · answer #2 · answered by aslgirl143 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe he wasn't your bfbf afterall. If he was he wouldn't have slept with you. If the bf if such a sweet guy why did you sleep around on him in the first place. You should leave the bf alone so he can find someone deserving of his true love. If I were the bf I wouldn't want to be your friend. With friends like you who would need enemies.
2007-03-26 12:14:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a load of crap answers your getting from this lot...Heres what i would do although im not a woman...You plainly like this other fella more than your boyfriend. Being happy in life before your married is all about playing the field, Thats what you are doing now. So... dump your boyfriend, go out with your/ his best friend, but i would give it a couple of weeks before you make it public to anyone..You might find out after a few weeks that you dont like him either...Who cares, theres plenty more fish in this sea... Enjoy yourself while finding your mr right, and when you do, then do everything you can to keep him...... Pop C
2007-03-26 12:19:51 · answer #4 · answered by pop c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't want to hurt him? too late. You made out with his best friend. Well technically, he's not really your boyfriend's best friend cuz if he was he'd never make out with you. And there have been very few relationships in which the girl dumps the guy and they're still friends. Just end it saying something like "i think we should get to know more people" or something like that.
but i think it is just cruel to make out with your best friend when you have a boyfriend.
2007-03-26 12:12:22 · answer #5 · answered by vanessahudgensfan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're going to lose him as a friend either way, so you can at least end things in the right way by being honest. Tell your boyfriend that you've fallen for his friend, that you've already kissed this other guy, and that you're sorry to have hurt him. Then, let the chips fall where they may.
2007-03-26 12:10:48 · answer #6 · answered by eileezy2002 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Woah, Some of these people are really harsh. I suggest you just tell him how you feel. You got in over your head and just want him as a freind. The best freind thing, i suggest you let that wait a little. Let him know after everythings settled down. YOu dont want to much on your plate.
2007-03-26 12:13:11 · answer #7 · answered by Johnathan H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
might not sound like good advise....but just be honest and explain to him what the situation is. He might get really mad but then you take the blame off yourself becuase you were honest about it and if he gets mad then u cant help it and its not on your head. Eventually he might understand...and he might not really get mad at all to begin with...
on the other hand if u want to be less hurtful you can lie, i dont encourage it, but you can keep him as a friend and not hurt him but youll be lying 2 him...i dont know what kind of lie it can be but....just dont mention the real reason u broke up with him...
2007-03-26 12:16:09 · answer #8 · answered by TheCrazier 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's immature. You should tell your boyfriend immediately and he should DUMP you for being so inconsiderate of his feelings. It's a big no no to cheat on somebody. I suggest you tell him before he finds out from someone else-- that would hurt him even more.
2007-03-26 12:10:58 · answer #9 · answered by missflower 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well in my experience I say be honest with him about your feelings and tell him that you want to break-up, but you want to stay friends. Also tell him about making out with his best friend, and if he gets angry then give him time to get over the hurt. Hopefully he will understand and know you could have kept it from him but you were decided not to. Hopefully he will think good enough to stay friends with you. I hope this helps.
2007-03-26 12:16:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well just tell him staright up
im sorry but i don't want to
go out or be ur girl any more
because i think we should be
better as friends then boyfriend
and girlfriend and if u don't dump
him them just don't talk to the other
dude any more even though ur best freinds
2007-03-26 12:12:06 · answer #11 · answered by Evelyn S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋