I just told this girl that I've liked her for a long now. She surprised me by saying that she had feelings for me too. I'm Bi, but she's not... or atleast not sure she is. What do I do now?... what should be my next move?
plz help! I really really like this girl, and I don't want to do anything to ruin our friendship.
2007-03-26 11:55:01 · 13 answers · asked by SashMarie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and when I say that she's not bi.. I mean that's she's straight.....
2007-03-26 12:16:04 · update #1
i dont understand the whole "I'm Bi, but she's not" part? Surely, even if u like both guys and girls, u have to be faithful to whoever ur dating? Do u want one of each or something?
2007-03-26 11:57:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's great that you found someone who you really care about and who cares about you as well. You probably should let her know before it becomes really serious that you are bi.
With that said, being bi shouldn't factor into a monogomous relationship. Either you are committed or you are not. Being bi is not an excuse to cheat.
You and this girl should define the boundries of your relationship from the start in order to avoid any heartache down the road.
Good Luck!
2007-03-26 19:01:42 · answer #2 · answered by Goddess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait - she's not bi as in she's straight, or as in she's lesbian? Or you just don't know yet?
In any case, I'd say take it slow, maybe just keep hanging out like you're still just friends, see how it goes. I mean, if she's questioning, I think the nicest thing you can do for her is give her time to figure it out and think about it a lot.
That's exciting though - good luck!!
2007-03-26 19:01:20 · answer #3 · answered by Cedar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello.
i am not bi or lesbiand but it is no different then a straight relationship.
ok so you are not sure if she is bi or not?
well just say to her..." i want to be more than friend's with you but if you are not bi than i am ok with that, and i want us to still have a friendship."
if she said that she liked you to when you exspressed your feelings then there is a pretty good chance that she may be.
there is no use sitting around wondering if she is bi or not or if the relationship will work or not..take a chance.
good luck=D.
kristina.
2007-03-26 19:06:24 · answer #4 · answered by Kristina. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tel her this: if we cant be in a relationship, lets just be friends. i mean, if anyone of my galfriends told me that she liked me, i wld want to stay away from them b/c @ first, its kinda scary to like somebody bi. anyway, she might stay away from u for a lil while, but if seeing her in person duznt work, try email or phone to tell her: plz dont stay away from me or anything... i jst wanted us to be friends. closer friends.
2007-03-26 19:01:49 · answer #5 · answered by .mickey. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some times this can be hard. i would do what ever you fell comfortable doing idk any one can rely tell u what to do but most import and don't think that u being bi is a bad thing cus its not. but go for it ride it out something good might happen
2007-03-26 19:00:41 · answer #6 · answered by John M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her you don't want to ruin the friendship in anyway and just talk to her about how you feel and try and find out how she feels.
2007-03-26 18:57:34 · answer #7 · answered by Your_Star 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be honest. unless you are planning to date both sexes during the relationship. I don;t see where the problem lies
2007-03-26 18:58:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your next move should be to get yourself a boyfriend and do what a woman is supposed to do.
2007-03-26 18:59:06 · answer #9 · answered by markos m 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I don't have any advice, but this girl-on-girl thing sounds very, very hot.
Please keep us posted. In detail.
2007-03-26 18:57:36 · answer #10 · answered by Jeff P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋