Tell me people what should I do? I love him so much but this thing is killing me.
2007-03-26 11:42:49 · 40 answers · asked by Sunrise 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's not intuitive for some men on how to "be" in bed. With proper and senstive coaching, - on your part, - you can make it clear as to what you like and don't like.
It's a difficult problem, -but it's not something that you two can't solve together.
2007-03-26 11:46:51 · answer #1 · answered by MK6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Providing that you have not tried theses various things already, below I provided a few possibilities for you:
1. Proper nutrition, including a vitamin/mineral/herb regimen especially extra doses of E, magnesium, and zinc, of which increase sperm counts, and regular exercise are vital
2. Limit Alcohol consumption, and or tobacco and pot usage
3. Aphrodisiacs, such as raw oysters help
4. Sexy apparel is a plus regarding arousal
5. Hold no bars, say no to nothing, including anal, unless harm is result, I realize that it may or may not be pleasureful for you, but in many cases it helps increase a mans desires.
6. Showering together is a plus
7. Erotic dancing, especially stripping and grinding are big plus's
8. Sexy baby talk has been known to get a few sparks flying
9. Make sure that he's getting enough rest, at least 7-8 hours of undisturbed sleep are vital.
10. Reduce high stress levels if possible, financial burdens cause havoc on sexual relations... Good Luck
2007-03-26 12:07:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried talking about it? Cos communication no matter how uncomfortable, is necessary. Just show him what you like and ask what he likes. You can try sex games (like the 1001 night of sexual pleasure), or just try reading a book together and stuff. You can also get sex counseling but you have to talk to him about it. Naturally he'll get upset since you've been having sex for all this time and you never said anything to him but if you want to make the marriage work you have to get through this. I promise it will be worth it!
2007-03-26 11:48:40 · answer #3 · answered by Kat ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't just come out and say "omg! you suck!" you have to be slick about it.
Next time you are getting ready to do do "the nasty" just ask him what he would like, whether he tells you or not, this will open the door for you to give him a little bit of direction.
You are married, which means this is the only guy you are goingt o be with for the rest of your life. Take an opportunity to "customize" eachother to keep eachother satisfied.
Hope that helps!
2007-03-26 11:48:58 · answer #4 · answered by Fluffington Cuddlebutts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love him enough to trust him with the depths of your soul on this issue. Don't be afraid to tell him completely and honestly what pleases you and what works, help him help you.
One of the most damaging things in a relationship besides crossing that respect line is communication. You can beat anything if you face it together.
2007-03-26 11:47:57 · answer #5 · answered by OPTIMIST 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a few things you can do......First can you talk to him about sex? Thats very important then you look at things together. But you have to have good comunication with each other if he gets upset easily about dicussing sex that could make your job a little harder. Worse thing you could do would be to talk down to him that would be bad....I have some sites for you I hope they help.......
2007-03-26 12:06:03 · answer #6 · answered by miester44 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont understand how you can have a husband and have bad sex when you have sex or (**** sex as you say lol) you should be able to communicate about what does it for each other and build on this i really dont know about all use idiots that cant talk to each other about having great sex ESPECIALLY WHEN HES YOUR HUSBAND! and im only 21 ffs
2007-03-26 11:47:47 · answer #7 · answered by alan m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him....Honesty goes a long way...and if you cant be honest, if he'll be hurt or get mad, wait until the heat of the moment and try something differant...at that point all embarrassment goes out the window so try something then. If you know you would enjoy something....you should initiate it. It works trust me!
2007-03-26 11:47:32 · answer #8 · answered by maygirl28 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's important, you should have figured that out before the marriage.
At this point, just be honest and get a book, or some "instructional" videos, or something like that. Give him ideas.
Make sure it's not you, either.
2007-03-26 11:46:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
never marry someone who is BAD in the sex department first off...2nd get him a few books and some porn and tell him exactly what you want....if not find a lover honey
2007-03-26 11:46:22 · answer #10 · answered by nena 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋