My boyfriend and I just started going out last week. We are both really close. Me and him were having a serious conversation when I brought up that he thinks hiis dad may be abusing him. He toled me his dad leans him over his desk every night and uses the cane really hard on him. He was like " I don't cry, I've gotten used to the pain." He said that his dad will make up excuses to hit him but will never touch his younger brother of 14. He toled me not to tell, I refused but he begged. I don't know what to do, he hides it, no one will ever find out. We are both 16 and from the UK. Oh, and I found a video on youtube. I've never been spanked so I don't know what he's going through. I searched corporal punishment on youtube and found a video that looks a lot like what he was describing. I showed him and he said thats almost exactly what it's like with his dad but his dad hits him a longer time. Look at the video: http://youtube.com/watchv=_l_kymx9qqq...
2007-03-26 11:37:28 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
You don't have to call the police, but go straight to your school guidence counsilor. They will report it for you.
2007-03-26 18:13:56 · answer #1 · answered by Cynthia E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mom hits me, not a lot just we get into an argumetn and shell shove me into my desk as hard as she can. my friend told the school conslor and the protective sevices people came, my mom was so mad she kept repeadadly whking me in the face and protective services didnt do anything. nothing eould hapent to ur boyfreinds dad either, not if he just panks him no mattter how abusive the spanking is. DONT CALL THE POLICE. it will just make his situation worse and he knows that. im 16 and i have 2 more years w/ my mom just like him. if your bfs lasted as long as he has, he will last the next 2. my mom dosnt kit my younger borthereither, it will end w/ me
2007-03-26 18:57:44 · answer #2 · answered by Monkey Lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell the police even though he told u not 2 but it sounds real harsh( I can't see the video)but I would tell the police be4 his dad hearts his 14 brother because he might not now but he might later.
2007-03-26 18:49:41 · answer #3 · answered by ♥LuV my preppyness♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Chris, only, here's an added feature, if you DON'T tell the police, or someone, then you are aiding and abetting this abuse.. first though, have you seen the marks from this mistreatment? make sure you are reporting something that is actually happening, and not something he's telling you because he's ticked off at his father.
2007-03-26 18:46:57 · answer #4 · answered by chuckufarley2a 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW, I feel really sorry for him. I would tell the police, I know you promised not to, but by not doing so, you are allowing this to go on. If you love him, tell the police.
2007-03-26 18:42:48 · answer #5 · answered by Chris 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It might be a good thing to let someone know asap. This is a horrible thing to be happening and obviously he needs help right now. Even if you promised not to tell, he would be more greatful if you told someone to help him.
2007-03-26 18:46:42 · answer #6 · answered by baseballfreak322 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u really care about this boy CALL the POLICE!!! n wheres his mother at...she should be the one calling the police
2007-03-26 18:52:09 · answer #7 · answered by Min l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THAT IS DEFINATE ABUSE AND YOU NEED TO TELL RIGHT NOW!!! CALL THE AUTHORITIES YOU CAN REMAIN ANOYNOUS IF YOU WISH
2007-03-26 18:46:35 · answer #8 · answered by babygirl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what happens if it goes too far one time and he is extremely hurt or killed? what is more important his life or his confidentiality?
2007-03-26 19:03:13 · answer #9 · answered by airgemm 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋