Romantic relationships at work are against policy. I can't give all the details but it is a messed up situation. We love each other and are really serious about staying together but we have to tell our boss before he finds out from someone else. When he finds out we will probably be apart for a few months but we are willing to wait for each other. I know we need to tell him so I think Im just looking for an encouraging word or two!!!
2007-03-26 11:36:45 · 10 answers · asked by yeahiscrewedup 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Romantic relationships at work are against policy. I can't give all the details but it is a messed up situation. We love each other and are really serious about staying together but we have to tell our boss before he finds out from someone else. When he finds out we will probably be apart for a few months but we are willing to wait for each other. I know we need to tell him so I think Im just looking for an encouraging word or two!!! I am in the military and i can't just change jobs right away.
2007-03-26 11:54:09 · update #1
Change jobs. They are violating your freedom of association.
2007-03-26 11:40:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you need to tell the boss at all!
Having been in this situation, let me tell you that I'm glad that we both got jobs where such thing is encouraged now....but twisting the dagger doesn't help you much does it, eh?
When we met and started dating, my girlfriend was my immediate supervisor...a BIG no no in the hospital that we worked. We kept it completely quiet for months, she'd even spread rumors that I was gay (I'm secure enough for that...haha). In any case, it started to become obvious to many people in the lab (not because of our work but because of our stories of things outside of work or delays happening to both of us, etc), including our boss. We even had physicians ask us point blank and we denied it. Eventually people just accepted that it was or wasn't true and stopped pursuing it. We got our work done, our relationship (if it existed) didn't seem to effect our work so it seemed apparent to them not to matter. We ultimately never told anyone for sure until we had our new jobs (we quit for other reasons not remotely related to our relationship). If your place of work has a policy against it, I would maintain ignorance and make sure that you don't remotely let your work be affected by working together. Your business off the clock is not their business and if you value your jobs, then giving them that information may be leverage that you don't want them to have.
Even if your boss is cool and you hang out with them or whatever, I wouldn't want to put them in that position either. Do your work, let them make all the accusations they want; they'll get tired of it eventually.
2007-03-26 18:47:09 · answer #2 · answered by Cronides 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to tell the boss anything... you are against company policy, and you could be fired... probably both of you. One of you needs to find another job. For now, keep that check coming in and say nothing. But start a job search.
2007-03-26 18:41:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
instead of getting fired (since you said it is again policy) is it possible for one of you to change departments or get a new job? I have never ever heard of a rule that said romantic relationships at work are against policy...I mean it is common sense if you are dating someone you work with to keep it on a business level while at the job...what state are you in?
2007-03-26 18:41:22 · answer #4 · answered by poker_fan_in_nyc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I'm not mistaken I don't think that they are against policy, but they are strongly not recommended due to conflict in interest. Before you guys get serious think about the possible outcomes of this relationship whether it be in work or outside of work. No one can tell you who to love and who not to love but do remember if you wanna eat you gotta work. Don't put your job/career at risk. Be Careful!
2007-03-26 18:48:43 · answer #5 · answered by alexbeauty333 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check the policy again. As long as it does not impact your work how does it matter to your boss. Do the best at your job and then what you do outside of it is nobody else's biz
2007-03-26 18:41:38 · answer #6 · answered by a1b2c3d4test 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the fact is that one of you is going to have to quit.
relationships interfere in the workplace and it is against policy for a reason. if you two are truly in love and seriously planning on marriage or getting engaged then you can make the decision together of who is going to be looking for a new job.
2007-03-26 18:40:33 · answer #7 · answered by Bex 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No the work place is the wrong place. Keep it for after hours. It's nobody's business who you date. Plus you may get fired and they will say it's for something else. That would look bad on your next application attempting a new job.
2007-03-26 18:41:13 · answer #8 · answered by motogirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go on, get in there, you know you want to, oh yes do it baby! There's a collection of encouraging words :-) Oh, be happy. What a job compared to love? Hmmm love. Love. Is a many splendoured thing, da, da, da, da... What does "splendoured" mean in all an' anyways?
2007-03-26 18:42:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're going against company policy, so one of you needs a new company.
2007-03-26 18:44:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋