Because I am expecting... And I am not sure if i am going to be good mom.. I can not teach my kids much.. because I believe that i am not that smart with spelling and pronouns words... and I feel that i am ready but scary to be.. because it another thing to worry... if i know my parents is going to help teach my child. but i feel that i am not going to be success with raising my own child(I have work with kids beforewhen i was younger in life) with my husband and not be able to teach a lot to my kids from what i know. I have to get my permit and get car. (scary of it because i have fail once) I am just worry if i am going to be good mom... if i can learn from my mom.. but my mom complains about everything about me and i am sick of it.. and she doesn't stop.. The only thing my mom teach me was manners beign outside and being polite and dress nice, and have respects for elders and family mostly come first in life.. and teach me how to be success ful in life..
2007-03-26 11:29:43 · 11 answers · asked by babyg 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I know every parents raise they kids different.. There some ways i wanted to raise my kids is to respect elders and family and manner outside and do good in life and other stuff...
I got a lot in my hands for raising baby... and i wanted more kidss in the future...
2007-03-26 11:43:13 · update #1
and i had miscarrage last year and i am worry about it happen again and
I would be think of going to the classes...
2007-03-26 11:44:02 · update #2
I know my husband and I can teach or kids.. But he another culture and i am another culture.. And we going to be combine or culture together to teach r child.. what we know...
2007-03-26 11:48:39 · update #3
there is a thing called mothers instinct. you develope it after you give birth. babies and children dont come with instruction manuals. we learn from trial and error. it is normal for you to feel this way. some days i question my own child rearing skills. after birth something within you is always on stand by. you will know exactly what I'm talking about in due time. ask other mothers about their motherly instinct and listen to what they have to say....good luck
2007-03-31 16:01:20 · answer #1 · answered by lumpkinstonya 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with lumpkins- motherly instinct just happens for some odd reason or another- my daughter gave birth two years ago and she called me from the hospital a few days later and was crying and I said "honey what's wrong" and she just said " Mom I know what you mean now" because all through her teenage years and up I had tried to explain how it feels to become a mother, but there are no words that can describe it the real way-only when you become a mom do you understand it! And this also is the best way to describe how love feels! You will do fine-but take some parenting classes and read lots of books and ask other new moms for any good advice they may have! Good Luck!
2007-04-03 05:35:23 · answer #2 · answered by buffster06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best I could tell you is this. If you have God in your life, truly. You can get throw anything. If your going to church now that's great, if not you need to start thinking about it. That where it all beginnings. Being a mother and father is part of God's plan. it comes natural. It's keeping that union together these days are the hardest and it seems like every ones on their second and third marriages. The kids are lost and alone most times because both parents have to work. If you get the baby on a schedule and don't let them sleep with you, any time!. Feed, change them and keep them clean and on a schedule,your marriage well be bless for you will found time for your self, your husband and be a happy mother. That feeling of not being smart, you are going to feel rewarded for this child is in need of you and your love is all it takes. Remember that babies needs you and you don't have to be smart to have a baby it's Gods gift of life. Just be loving and you can always help your child in supporting the right from wrong. When they gets Little older they will need you more to guide them. Then about 6th grade they start to show thier independacne. Peer pressure sets in,their friends mean more to them then anyone. Just keep a check on it and all well go well. I can't say good luck for it far from luck it's the best thing in the world thats going to happen to you. God Bless You and your husband. And Just think you can get a second change to learn what you don't know as your child goes into school your help will grow. I hear resetment about your mom. If you don't like what she has to say, make sure your not going to act like her. Prays will help. And if you can find a church go and pray. I promise you will find peace.
2007-03-31 23:12:14 · answer #3 · answered by joyce s 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is totally normal to worry if you are going to be a good parent.I have 6 children and believe it or not I worried every time I was pregnant!!!Taking a parenting class is a good idea,it may help you to gain confidence in your parenting skills.But I will tell you one thing for sure.No one learns to be a good parent.That comes to you naturally.Yes,reading books and going to classes helps you learn how to take care of your child.That is how to burp them,diaper them,feed them that sort of thing.But that's not what you mean I'm sure.I think what you are worried about is the emotional aspect of parenting.That's the part you will just be able to do.You say your mom complains and critisizes every thing you do?Well that is her mistake.Learn from that and try to help your child learn from his/her mistakes.Explain gently why what they are doing might be wrong.Every one has a different style of doing things,maybe your mom just feels her way is right.Explain to her that this is the way YOU choose to do things.Just because it's different than hers doesn't mean it's wrong,just different.It sounds like she taught you very important things in life,manners,respect,family values,all those things are important.Raise your child to have those same values,and teach him/her others that you want them to have and you will be successful.Above all,love your child.Love is THE most important thing(besides food!!)you can give your child.That and a sense of self worth.Let your child know they are important in this world.Just by the fact that you are so worried already tells me you will do fine.Love your baby,keep him/her safe and they will grow into a strong happy person.Good Luck and God Bless!!!!
2007-03-26 20:16:22 · answer #4 · answered by Ha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes becoming a parent, and parenting teaches us as well. You won't be given an 8 or 15 year old at the very beginning....it will be a little newborn baby. You meet their basic needs, of a safe home, proper nourishment, and lots of love, and you will grow with them. You can always brush up on your education in your spare time, but no parent has to be Einstein. Loving and providing for your child will teach you lots. It is a lot of work but well worth it. Lot's of mothers are nervous with the first baby. Don't worry, and take really good care of yourself during your pregnancy. Good luck:)
2007-03-26 20:53:50 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there have been many good moms long before reading and writing,
you wrote well enough to make us all understand what you were saying...thats a plus in your favor.
If you can just teach your child what you know, your child will have a real good format that he can keep learning from, before you know it he will pass you up
do you know, that just you worrying about this, is the very thing that makes good mothers?
I'm thinking you should go
to the library, check out parenting tapes and when you baby is born , he will never be too little for story time at the library.
dont worry you'll be fine! : )
2007-04-03 09:48:44 · answer #6 · answered by butterflysnflutterbyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think every mother has fears when they get pregnant for the first time. I had an unplanned pregnancy, right in the middle of my crazy "party party party" lifestyle. I was absolutely blown away that I was going to be a mother. I was in total denial. Then the fear set in. I kept thinking that I was not meant to be a Mom. I didn't feel maternal. After my son was born, I fell in love immediately. It took me awhile to get used to motherhood, but from the moment he was born until now, he is my reason for waking up, my reason to worry, my reason to smile, and my reason for making myself a better person. He's the reason that I became who I am today. Don't worry so much. It just comes naturally. It is very hard to raise a child, but you just do the things you feel are right. You'll learn with time, just like your baby. Grow together! :)
2007-04-01 00:56:37 · answer #7 · answered by munkees81 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you have love in your heart...and already have a deep love for your unborn child you will be a great mom...even if you cant provide all their wants as long as you take care of the needs and show them attention and let them know you love them more than anything every single day...
2007-03-26 21:02:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Great! Since my mother nursed me since my birth and brought me very lovingly,I have started to go foe some books on the subject and recollection of my past memories and sure i will be a good mother.
2007-03-31 07:32:50 · answer #9 · answered by KC G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would take some parenting classes, read some books and get yourself mentally prepared. I'm sure your just nervous. You can do anything you set your mind too. If you want to be good at it, you can be, They need lots of love and patience, and your time.
2007-03-26 18:36:47 · answer #10 · answered by tammer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋