Theres this girl at my school, i dont know her at all, but she was at the same party as me once for like 5 seconds, last year. Now she sees me in the hallways and she got my # from this other girl, and she like follows me around and says we have to hang out, and i dont know her and i dont really want to. Today she said, how come you didnt call me over the weekend? and im like.... oh didnt kno i had to. i never said i would... i really dont want to be bogus and like, LEAVE ME ALONE!! or anything, but thats kinda how im feeling. Any ideas of how i could politely/ non chalantly get her out of my life?!?! she does it to other people too, not just me. its really annoying! help!!
2007-03-26 11:28:43 · 11 answers · asked by whazzah 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
She is obviously inept at reading social cues and seems desperate to make friends. However if you have known who she is for quite some time and don't want to engage in a friendship, I doubt that will change any time soon. Being rude is just cruel and obviously that is something you don't want to do or you would have done it already. Talk to you school counselor and explain the situation. They often have programs for kids like that who have difficulty making friends or can redirect her to another group who may be more open to her presence. Good luck. You may have to put up with a bit more following but once she finds an accepting group she'll be less likely to keep following you. Thank you for not being cruel - she's probably had enough of that already.
2007-03-26 14:07:40 · answer #1 · answered by Baby boy arrived March 7th! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well.
i had a similar problem.
back in middleschool, this girl who would say creepy things to herself sat at our lunch table.
we thought of this as odd, so we'd change tables every week.
she followed us.
after i tried blocking her way from sitting, she practicly pushed me out of the way to sit next to us
D:
she was so creepy.
i know people are always like 'ohhh they just want friends!'
i guess i'm not a very generous person...really..but i can't really become friends with anyone if i'm not comfortable around them, it's really harsh but true. people may not agree with that-but hey, more power to them. they can make friends with them instead of me being forced to.
:3
give her the cold shoulder, that should work. if it doesn't seem to be helping, keep trying that but kinda be a bit more rude about it.
2007-03-26 18:45:29 · answer #2 · answered by Ellyn C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't unless you want to be rude.
And what's so wrong with her wanting to be friends anyway? She seems like she's trying to get to know you so maybe you should give her a chance (unless she's just creeping you out). Trust me on this one, trying to make friends when nobody else really wants another friend is the hardest thing in the world and it hurts like h--- when nobody wants to be your friend. If she's a new girl, that's probably what's going on with her.
2007-03-26 18:52:53 · answer #3 · answered by GeekGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're in high school, then this might not work. I think you say, "My psychiatrist thinks I need as much alone time as possible. I'm prone to violent outbursts and very agressive behavior. I knew you would understand." Then twitch your head a couple times and start saying, "kill kill kill." in a very sinister voice.
2007-03-26 19:25:44 · answer #4 · answered by James G 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Say something to REALLY hurt her feelings so that she will leave you alone for good, such as saying something bad about her mother (don't do that UNLESS you REALLY know how to fight because somebody will be ready to beat the living daylights out of you for that!), call her fat (if she's fat), call her an anorexic b1tch (if she's VERY skinny), call her ugly if many people call her ugly, or any other mean thing you can say to her so that she can leave you alone! I know it's wrong, but HEY, if you want her to leave you alone, then you've GOT to do this!
2007-03-26 18:42:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
It sounds like she may have a stalking problem, or has a hard time making friends. Try just telling her that you don't have time to hang out with her, and if that doesn't work try talking to your counselor.
2007-03-26 18:33:48 · answer #6 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should try to get to know her. Ask what her name is or something. She obviously feels like she needs friends. This is an obvious cry for help.
2007-03-26 18:36:43 · answer #7 · answered by Terabell_Samantha_Ursula 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's the best form of flatery I guess.
You can try teaching her to be herself,
maybe hang out with her one day, show her who you really are, she obviousely wants to know.
2007-03-26 18:33:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ello Chap. tell her to piss off, or just let her nicley know how you feel. don't give her false answers or anything otherwise she will keep bugging you.
2007-03-26 18:32:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
run in zig zags
2007-03-26 18:31:24 · answer #10 · answered by Tania La Güera 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋