my girl friend stoped having sex with me after 7 months because she says that she feels wrong going to church and knowing that she has been having sex. she is catholic. and im an atheist. i think that if you really love a person that there is nothing wrong in having sex. what can i do or say to change ther mind
2007-03-26 11:27:04 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
do you really love her,then you wouldn't push her into doing anything she doesn't want to,love endureth all things.
2007-03-26 11:33:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your girlfriend has her priorities straight. Just in case you don't know or haven't heard, the catholic religion is very strict and if you plan to stay with this girl then I recommend that you find out certain things about her religion so that you do not disrespect her in any shape form or fashion. I also believe that going to church and being active in church and then turning right back around and fornicating is a total contradiction. I completely understand where she's coming from and I totally agree with her and her decision. If you are really thinking about having a long lasting relationship, I would stick with her. It seems as though she has her priorities straight. Good luck!
2007-03-26 18:40:33 · answer #2 · answered by alexbeauty333 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isn't a lot you can do to change her mind. I was told growing up that it was wrong to have sex before getting married. I endend up having sex but I didn't have sex til I was ready and felt sure. Also I didn't have sex til the guy give me a ring. But if she feels the way she feels. You need not push her to do something she doesn't feel right. Just wait and give her time. She may come around again. But for now just let time do its thing.
2007-03-26 18:32:42 · answer #3 · answered by Hot asain mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Really loving someone" is not a sufficient criteria to have sex. Making a commitment to be faithful to one person is, however.
But, as for asking her to give up her religioud beliefs just so that you can selfishly satisfy your sexual urges is not exactly the high road to follow.
Here's the thing: if you really do love someone, then you should honor her religious beliefs even if you disagree with them. Trying to change her mind will only make her antagonistic towards you.
You cannot compete with Jesus, my friend. Either you'll have to agree to wait with her, or look for someone else.
2007-03-26 18:36:34 · answer #4 · answered by DrRJP 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're approaching this the wrong way. You dont need to change her mind, you need to talk to her about it and respect her religion. Talk about what her church believes on this matter and if it's not going to work with her going with you AND sticking to her religion, then you need to end it. Dont make her feel guilty.
2007-03-26 18:34:04 · answer #5 · answered by 17*mezzo*17 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its against her religion and if she feels like she is disrespecting her god, then you have to respect her. Even though you have different beliefs, im sure she would respect you wishes regarding religion. Its up to her to decide whether she wants to continue your activities. There's nothing wrong with voicing your opinion, but keep a non-argumentative, non-offensive, non-judgmental tone.
2007-03-26 18:31:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yeah it is wrong, having sex before marriage, your not gonna get blessing from God which is so important in our lives, because without him nothing is possible, even to build a strong relationship......
2007-03-26 18:31:39 · answer #7 · answered by my angel is 2 1/2 now:) 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't say anything. Take a step back. Do you really think this is because of her religion? If so, and you're willing to remain celibate, then stay with her. If not, and you're not willing to give it up sex, you will probably have to break up with her.
2007-03-26 18:29:59 · answer #8 · answered by Ask Aunt Amy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
nope first of all you have totally two different beliefs big time how the heck can a non believer b with a believer you two were doomed from the get go!! LOL
2007-03-26 18:30:36 · answer #9 · answered by notyochic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't do anything to change her mind. if you really love her then you will respect her decision to get closer to her beliefs and start acting them out insted of just listening.
2007-03-26 18:31:06 · answer #10 · answered by Bex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why should you expect her to give in and change her beliefs for you...why dont you do it her way????? why should she do it your way??? you need to learn about catholics and guilt my friend and stop pushing her...look at it from her point of view..youll push her away you keep insisting on sex.
2007-03-26 18:31:55 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋