Me and my mom?

Question

We don't get along. Like she makes me study over the weekend which stresses me out because she expects nothing but A's a B and she's like why didn't you make a B. I asked her why I study over the weekend if I'm going to learn it at school. So there's no point into doing it./ I understand when she says we need to keep up and we're 2 lessons behind but getting 56 lessons ahead is just stressful. She always says I have an attitude problem. I try to fix it and when I'm calm 30 minutes later she's still yelling in my face. She sometimes slaps me if I get an answer wrong and she told me the answer 4 times before. I cuss her out in my mind sometimes. I let it all out in my Diary but it still never works. How can we get close again.

Answer 1

do what she says, stop talking back... and things will work out. you only have to live with her until you are 18.. then you can move out of the house. until then you are under her roof so you should follow her rules. obviously just learning stuff at scohol isn't working since you are getting C's or lower. she has expectations of oyu and if it takes studying on the weekends to meet them then you must do that. B's are not outrageous to get.

Answer 2

I disagree with "The Harsh Reality"...I don't think this is a dumb question...I have a 6 year old daughter and I would hate for my daughter to feel this way about me but I already see I am falling into the same path as her mother (example: "She sometimes slaps me if I get an answer wrong and she told me the answer 4 times before") I have sort of done this with my daughter and it's not right even though we do it because we are frustrated...

The bottom line is you should listen to your mother while you are living in your parents home...as frustrating as it is, getting the good grades now will help you in the future to get a better job/go to college etc... and move away from her...good luck and know she does mean well

Answer 3

It's going to take time. It's not right of her to slap you if you get an answer wrong. That's just not right. And there are no excuses for it. On the other hand, you need to know that your mom just doesn't know better. I would let her know how much she hurts you, not only physically, but emotionally. Leave your diary on her bed maybe for her to read. or leave it somewhere "accidently" while you go out somewhere. i hope things go well for you guys. there's nothing like having a good, close relationship with your Mother. these people who tell you to just listen just don't understand. it's not that easy and that's not the case here. be strong.

Answer 4

Well, she's not handling this right at all IMO and while it's fine to push a little bit if needed to succeed, this sounds excessive. At the same time any decent kid in a normal home should be able to make A's and B's with very little difficulty. I'm sorry I don't have any advice, other than to have a serious talk with her and explain your feelings. It might be that you two are talking past eachother and misunderstand.

Answer 5

first of all your mother should never slap you just becuse you got an answer wrong ! it sounds like she wants you to be perfect and no one is perfect ! she would hate me if i were her daughter i make b,c,d i rarly make an a and it's not becuse i'm not trying i think she is taking you childhood away my dad yell's at me becuse he wants me to make good grades but i know he means well but your mother is just crule you cannot force some one to study all the time and slap them when they make a mistake . you might want to just miss a few answers at school on purpose and make a c just to show her no matter what you do no matter how hard you study some times you don't make the grade . hope this helps God Bless,Heather

Answer 6

It sounds like your mom has some issues that she needs to resolve and she is taking out her frustrations on you. maybe you should suggest that she go see a counselor.