somebody please help me. i cant ask any of my friends for help because then ill need to tell them my secret...

Question

i am a girl who is known as an "innocent girl" - i'm very reserved and nice and cute....


well, thats only my reputation - and in my town, that is what you need to be. but really i did some stuff with a guy. i really loved the guy, but we both changed and somewhere along the line i stopped loving him. i told him, and he took it well... at first... but now he's threatening to tell the whole school - the whole town about what we did together if he hears that i like another guy or if i kiss another guy or anything!


i cant have my reputation turned from being innocent to a ****. people will stop being friends with me and will look down on me. my family wont understand and it will be a whole mess.


also, i cant have him rule my life! he shouldnt be in charge of my life like this!


what do i do? if he tells people then my life is really ruined. i wont be able to show my face at school or anywhere. what do i do? please help me.

Answer 1

Hold your head high and don't give him a second thought. He's immature and obviously still has a thing for you and you hurt his ego when you were honest. Not your problem. He will end up looking like an immature A**hole. Your true friends are going to believe the truth , if that is what you tell them and the rest of the people - shine them on - people love to gossip and before you know it they will be talking about someone else. You could also try telling him to grow up, that he's not being fair, you were honest - would he rather you lied? And if all else fails you can always tell him if he spreads rumors about you , then you'll tell everyone hes got a little....that ought to shut him up. good luck.

Answer 2

Your right he cant control you...but lets face it...you did stuff with the guy. And you did it out of love for each other.....obviously he is a low person, if he is willing to stoop to such a level. Your better than he is....I know it sounds awful but if he tells then let him...you know in your heart what is right and what is wrong. And if your friends and family abandon you..then they wernt your friends and family in the first place. Your not a slut..and sooner or later....the "doing stuff" was bound to happen. I guarentee you that your friends have done things as well.....but ya'll are very lady like in keeping it private. If he is too immature to keep your past inthe past then all I can suggest is just beging honest...and if necessary contact the correct authority in order to file for harrassment.

Answer 3

If you go on being the innocent girl you are just living a lie.. You are not so innocent anymore and have to take responsibility for your actions. Hopefully, he will not be so immature to tell the school but kids are cruel these days.

When you say "you did stuff" what do you mean? What ever you did with him, you did because you thought you cared about him. If someone says anything to you, just shrugg it off, who are they to judge you? As long as you are true to yourself you will be okay.. it is when you live a lie things get bad.

Answer 4

Honestly lying isn't a good thing but maybe you should just tell everyone you never did any of that stuff and you don't know what he's talking about. If you already have a good reputation its hard to ruin it, so I would just keep living my life and try not to care what people think.

Answer 5

you should never do anything that you would be ashamed of, but since obviously it's too late for that, the only true way to protect yourself from being blackmailed from this guy is to tell people yourself. telling others takes away the control he "thinks" he has over you. what did you do that was so bad anyway? could'nt have been bad enough for everyone to hate you like you think. you're human, i'm sure other people in your town have done bad stuff to at one time or another.

Answer 6

what you need to do is go talk to an adult you trust. tell him or her what has happened. this is kind of serious. you don't want him to control you and the by the sounds of it it sounds like he is threntening you which is never a good sign. i know it might be hard people knowing what happened but at least you won't feel threntened. and you can always ask your parents move to another city and get a fresh start if you hate your reputation being ruined.

Answer 7

Tell the police! Tell them this person is threatening you. Another thing is, tell him: "Go ahead and try!" You can deny everything! Good luck! Kick his A** to the curb along with all of the trash!

Answer 8

stop warring about what others think of you, it's what you think about yourself that counts. How old are you?
Should you really be warring about the ones that want to judge you, stay with your close friends, the ones that do Not judge and say this is who you are Only you know who you are and what you are live your own truth not someone elses.

Answer 9

deny,deny, deny when in doubt deny!! start out by saying you are being harassed by a boy this boy tell a teacher or your parents that he is harassing you because you wont go out with him that will be your foundation for this terrible web you are about to weave! just deny everything he says and make sure you tell him to stop harassing you but say it in front of a crowd of people so that they can see that he is the bad guy not you!

Answer 10

Try reasoning with him and if that doesn't work than just tell the police! Tell them he is threatening you. Another thing is, tell him: "Go ahead and try!" You can deny everything he says! People tend to trust girls more than boys!

I hope I helped!