My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years and have a one and a half year old daughter. We planned a trip to Las Vegas in a month and I found out today that I am pregnant with our second child. I have not told him about it yet. We have only discussed marriage twice since we have been together, and I was thinking about telling him about the pregnancy over our trip and see if he wanted to get married while we were there. Does anyone think that this is the right way to go about this.---Keep in mind I am not looking for soemone to tell me "yall should have gotten married before kids" Just asking if this is the way to go from here. Thanks for any advice.
2007-03-26 11:02:36 · 23 answers · asked by kellie_new_mom25 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I don't think a major life decision is the time for a surprise. I think you should tell him your news, and tell him you want to get married. You can mention Vegas would be perfect, but I don't think that's the kind of thing to spring on someone, especially while you're on vacation and out of your element.
2007-03-26 11:16:44 · answer #1 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could ask him about the marriage thing while in Vegas if you really wanted, but I'd definitely tell him about the pregnancy thing beforehand. Especially with the precautions that need to be taken in early pregnancy (ie no alcohol) that could alter what ya'll can do in vegas. He may not like suddenly finding out you won't be able to drink, shouldn't be around alot of smoke and all that, if he's using it as a party trip!!
Congats on the pregnancy though!!
2007-03-26 20:37:58 · answer #2 · answered by texas hearts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were going to marry him, I would make it because of the fact that you would want to marry him, whether or not you were pregnant or even had his one child already. I would not recommend this if you are planning on marrying only for the sake of being pregnant. But, Vegas weddings are so fun either way! Hope you have fun there, no matter what you decide.
2007-03-26 18:07:21 · answer #3 · answered by It's Just My Opinion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would plan I romantic dinner and just the two of you sit down and let him know. I had the same problem about the wedding where it was so hard to plan a wedding. But in the end I have desided to have a wedding at home with my friends and family to be there. I thought how would I feel 5-10 years from know that I eloped and my family did share in the biggest day of my life. I think you should have a wedding at home. But you can in vegas just think hard about how you will feel later in life. But congrates on the baby. and good luck with everything.
2007-03-26 18:10:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't wait until the trip. Tell him NOW and discuss marriage NOW. He has to have a chance to think it over and make a decision. A "surprise" wedding is not a good idea.
2007-03-26 18:05:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Definetly tell him now. He might feel like you were keeping a secret if you tell him in Vegas. He probably wants to know, don't keep it from him. And it's better to talk about the marriage first instead of running off and doing it at the spur of the moment.
2007-03-26 18:13:30 · answer #6 · answered by ☮ Peace Out ☮ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad idea. A marriage should be discussed and planned, not sprung on someone. Unless you were already discussing getting married BEFORE the trip, dont expect it to happen there.
2007-03-26 18:07:18 · answer #7 · answered by xskeptictankx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that would be a really fun way to bring it up! Of course, if you do this, you should also prepare yourself for a possible "no", which could make the trip....well, not much fun.
Just be sure to have fun with it and I hope everything works out!!
--From someone who's done the quickie wedding for a baby!
2007-03-26 18:09:15 · answer #8 · answered by CM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't try to manipulate him into marrying you.
tell him you are pregnant asap. be excited and just be happy about your coming child.
if you get married, in vegas or any other time, it should be because you are happy and in love and both of you want to be together for ever without question. not because you kept your pregnancy a secret for a month, surpised him, and tricked him into marrying you. even if e loves you, that just ruins it.
2007-03-26 18:10:07 · answer #9 · answered by imnotachickenyoureaturkey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, not a good idea. Not the kind of thing to spring on the dude. If he hasn't married you by now - for example, before you were pregnant with your first, after you were pregnant with your first, just after you had your first -- he's not really into being married.
2007-03-27 09:45:19 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋