My oldest friend is getting married next spring, and has asked me to be a bridesmaid (NOT the maid of honor). What are my duties, responsibilities, and privileges, traditionally? I know I don't give a speech at the reception, but what do I do?
Am I at all responsible for the bachelorette party? For any part of the wedding? Do I need to do any planning, or will my friend, the bride, just tell me what she needs? Am I allowed to invite a date to the wedding, though I'll be sitting at the head table?
Any experience / expertise will be welcome. Thanks!
2007-03-26 10:59:49 · 6 answers · asked by Mysterious Gryphon 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Each Bride has a different idea of what their bridesmaids are supposed to do. I attached a list of what traditionally bridesmaids are responceable for, BUT not every bride follows this list to a T.
Honestly besides for the list below what i am expecting from my bridesmaids is just help. Help with the planning and picking out of details since lets face it, most guys would rather die than help his bride pick out china patterns. So far my bridesmaids have just been there for me to help with ideas as well as my de-stresser's. They are the ones that i usually call when i am going crazy and just need to talk to someone about the wedding stuff and get help. Also, they are helping with some of the pre wedding stuff like making favors and such. Just talk to your bride and the other bridesmaids and make sure that you're clear on everything that you have to do.
Good Luck!
Bridal Shower:
Bridesmaids usually join the maid of honor in hosting a bridal shower.
Bridal shower Ideas
Wedding Day:
Bring along a camera or video camera to record the bride as she gets ready for her big day.
Bridesmaids help take care of details for the bride such as running errands, and making table decorations or favors.
Reception:
Don’t leave early! The ideal bridesmaid is one of the last people to leave the party.
Help with the cleanup. When cleaning up be sure to save some mementos for the bride such as a centerpiece, wedding favors left behind, etc.
Wedding Expenses:
Bridesmaids pay for their own dresses and other attire.
If travel expenses are involved, responsible for getting to the wedding and staying in town during the celebration.
Although bridesmaids may attend several pre-wedding parties, only one shower gift and one wedding gift are to be expected.
Bridesmaids share the cost of the bridal shower with the maid of honor.
2007-03-26 11:15:15 · answer #1 · answered by Dawnwalker 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You mentioned all of them have "boys"--so might that be like 6 web page boys? I feel that's too many. I even feel three probably too many. And sure two is simply too younger--until there's an older sibling. two yos get scared and may not stroll down the aisle--are more often than not screaming approximately seeing such a lot of folks they do not know--and might simply refuse to do it in any respect. By the age of four they're much greater. They can stroll down the aisle, participate in the tasks and return to their moms. If you do not desire grownup bridesmaids--your peers will by and large be pleased approximately it. I realize that sounds bizarre however they're all married and moms. They shouldn't have the want to pay money for a get dressed they'll most effective put on as soon as, nor the time to commit to a bride who can have top expectancies. Often brides do not become aware of that the buddy can not go away her youngsters to head spend hours get dressed browsing, or watching at reception halls--like they might after they had been unmarried. I might don't forget asking your peers to do whatever extra "day of" like being dependable of the visitor booklet. A web page boy can entail as a lot or as low as you desire--however almost always that's plenty for "round two". And more than one lil boys may also be plenty on a marriage ceremony. I doubt your peers will think as overlooked as you assume if you do not ask their children.
2016-09-05 16:57:29 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally, you would get in touch with the maid of honor and help with the bridal shower. Purchase the dress and shoes for yourself, possibly pay for your updo. At the wedding you are to help out the bride.
Ask your bride what she expects from you before you commit to being a bridesmaid. If it isn't financially possible, be honest with her.
2007-03-26 12:41:46 · answer #3 · answered by Sara B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just ask the bride.... I was only a bridesmaid once and All I did was buy the dress, help set up the reception hall, and decorate the car.... oh and help the bride get in her dress
2007-03-26 11:07:55 · answer #4 · answered by Jen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plenty of headaches I am sure...
2007-03-26 11:08:51 · answer #5 · answered by thirty5delta 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
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2007-03-26 12:41:22 · answer #6 · answered by jmya1030 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋