I dont want to give the details, just please...help.
2007-03-26 10:48:59 · 16 answers · asked by CM 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Ok, i live in Tx and "they" live in Ca. Obviously i cant do anything here, they told me thay had no purpose, no reason. i dont know what to do. i have told them all i can. just help.
2007-03-26 10:57:03 · update #1
Do i tell anyone about this? As in their friends and family?
2007-03-26 11:23:43 · update #2
be kind and loving, and listen. Don't belittle their feelings and especially DON'T tell them how they should be feeling. Show them how much you care about them and let them know that they are extremely important to you. Don't freak out when they tell you how they are feeling, but than them for their honesty. Be honest with them as well, you don't have to pretend that you know what they're going through and how painful it is. Try and assure them that things will get better. If it's okay with them try finding them some help (therapist, or possibly an in-patient program)
I was suicidal for awhile last year and the most helpful thing that someone did for me was to just spend time with me. Fortunately for me this person also spent lots of time praying for me (even though I was an athiest) and they showed me what love really is. Now I'm in confirmation classes and am much happier!
Good luck talking to your friend, I hope that it'll work out okay
2007-03-26 11:02:46 · answer #1 · answered by Brooke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, bring it out into the open, even if they've not said they will. Ask if s/he is suicidal, and tell them not to do it. Tell them that it's not worth it. Keep company with him/her as much as possible, and offer ways to help. Remind him/her that their problems will not go on forever, that this is just a misconception. Whatever you do, DO NOT try frightening the person by saying something like,"If you do, you'll go to hell." They might tell
Then get some professional advice. And yes, pray like gangbusters.
2007-03-26 11:00:21 · answer #2 · answered by Dolores G. Llamas 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to find someone to discuss this now. This is very serious. If you are a student, go to a trusted teacher. If you are an adult, contact a family member of the person. Try to get the person to seek professional help as quickly as possible. Please, dont rely on just prayer. This person needs intervention now. You can save their life.
2007-03-26 10:55:19 · answer #3 · answered by in a handbasket 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that you will always be there for them if they want to talk. Tell them, you know they have pain and sometimes talking is the only way to help out. Be there for that person. I know if I didn't have my now husband, I would be dead. He saved me from the worst mistake. And I would have without his love and his guidance. Sometimes, just being there is all a person needs.
2007-03-26 10:55:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call and/or refer them to a suicide hotline.
If they truly sound suicidal, call 911 immediately.
Call their family.
Encourage a more positive point of view and introduce them to local resources.
Be the best friend you can be. If possible, go visit them, but certainly call to check in with them often.
2007-03-26 11:05:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would refer to ur friend as 'her' since it is easier for me to explain what i mean..
i would suggest that you talk to your friend. try to talk so much that she would let everything out of her system...if she hasn't told you what's on her mind (what's bothering her) yet. if she has, then remind her how much she means to ur life. tell her that it is going to be very hard for u and ur family to cope with all this. tell her that u want her to be there when u get married and have kids...so that she can help u out. remind her of the fun memories that u guys have had...and let her know that u want more memories of her.
of course, all these are just suggestions...like everyone is saying, get her professional help if possible...and keep praying for her. insha Allah, i will keep her in my prayers too.
2007-03-26 11:09:59 · answer #6 · answered by Jaggo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the very first thing you should do is to be there with them and give as many reasons as possible why they should live. second try to give as much support to them as possible. third, never leave thier side until they feel like living. do not let them go to the bathroom alone, do not let them out of your sight for any reson at all, even if it violates privacy. they will thank you for it later in their life. the second most important thing is to ask God to intervene in thier lives. ask God to talk to them. lastly, if they try anything to kill themsef, step in and stop them. if they swollow a bunch of pills, tak them to the nearest hospital at once. do not leave them alone for any part of the day. have another friend who cares about them there as well. watch your friends in shifts. make sure your friend knows you care about them. if you want to discuss it further, feel free to email me at ace777_777_777@yahoo.ca
2007-03-26 11:01:31 · answer #7 · answered by adrian w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call a suicide hotline to get advice on how to handle it. It's a very fragile issue, and I don't want to tell you the wrong thing. So I advise getting advice from a professional who knows how to deal with it.
2007-03-26 10:54:20 · answer #8 · answered by Heron By The Sea 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
National suicide hotlines:
http://suicidehotlines.com/
And have your friend read this:
http://www.metanoia.org/suicide/
Prayer isn't enough -- you need to take action, and so does your friend. Suicidal people can be helped and saved. I think you're a very good friend for trying to find help.
I wish you the best of luck.
2007-03-26 10:59:19 · answer #9 · answered by prairiecrow 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get them to see a professional.
2007-03-26 10:58:07 · answer #10 · answered by Alex 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋