I'm asking because my current date makes me realize I don't feel comfortable when my boyfriend has a lot more money than I do. The reason why I feel bad about it is that I don't want him to pay all the time, but I can't afford eating at the same places as he, at least not now. We don't live the same kind of lives in that way. How would you/do you deal with problems like those?
2007-03-26 10:44:24 · 8 answers · asked by Kerosa S 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its nice when the guy pays for the dinner but as long as he doesnt act like he can buy you i think it could be fine
2007-03-26 10:49:56 · answer #1 · answered by destineeschild93 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem too. Only it's reversed, I have the money and he doesn't. So what we do is I pick the restaurant I am going to pay for and the next time we go out, he picks the restaurant he can pay for.
If it really bothers you that much, tell him. Talk to him about it because he may not realize there is a problem.
2007-03-26 10:49:02 · answer #2 · answered by Lillian M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What goes around comes around. Let him pay the way and take you out. This is good a good thing. You don't have to take advantage of him or expect it and be sure to be grateful and say thank you. When you can do something special for him (and I do NOT mean sex) do it. Flowers, or a card, or burgers. Just be grateful your boyfriend can take care of you a little. I can PROMISE you there will be a time when it completely turns around and you will be the one footing the bills. Just enjoy.
2007-03-26 10:50:01 · answer #3 · answered by smecky809042003 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might try to think of this as a new experience and just blend in with it all! It's okay to feel this way I've been there, just remember that new things are always apart of living and learning in life. Always say thank you, keep you head up, and smile politely....When your day comes to splurge on the love one you have you'll understand the other side of things, It's nothing to get all worked up on:) *The one your with should always be the one who has you in mind and heart at all times!*
2007-03-26 10:52:46 · answer #4 · answered by memjabeana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand how you could feel that way but if your man doesnt have a problem with this why should you? he cant help that he is what he is. accept that you have a good man with some money in his pocket. many women would love to be in your shoes so i advise respecting what you have. address this situation with him and see how he feels about it. im sure he's not bothered by being able to take care of you and you shouldnt make him feel wrong for being able to either.
2007-03-26 10:55:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be up-front with him. Tell him you appreciate the gesture, and maybe later you'll get over it, but right now, you want to do things you can afford with him, even if he's the one paying. The longer you date, the more he'll relax about it, the more you'll relax about it, too.
2007-03-26 10:48:54 · answer #6 · answered by Nathan C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most people date people within their own class. A lot depends on why the person has money... e.g daddy gave it to him or he earned it himself.
if he earned it, then he a lot more respectable character and more worthy of dating.
2007-03-26 10:51:03 · answer #7 · answered by Pedro Sanchez 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain the situation to him,and offer to pay for what you can.
2007-03-26 10:49:28 · answer #8 · answered by RAINBOW 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋