How do I get help with a mother with psuedo seziures, depression, anxiety. ect.. with a know it all father?

Question

some guidence as to how to get them to therapy, to live the last 30 years happy. This has gone on way to long.

Answer 1

If your Mother will not seek help for herself or because of your Father's attitude and he is unable to recognize the problem and the need for treatment I think your best bet is always to try and share with each of them how their behavior is impacting you-how it makes you feel, how it hurts or damages you and what it would mean to you if they were to seek treatment. Often people are unwilling to address problems for their own sake, preferring to tough it out or deny it's existence, but when they realize it's having a detrimental effect on those that they love (especially their children) it is often the needed catalyst for them to seek help.
I don't know how old you are, but if you yourself are an adult with children of your own, it can often have powerful impact when you set limits too about the kind of contact you will have and what you will allow for your children. I'm not suggesting in any way that you cut off contact or threaten to do so in a punitive way, but rather consider the impact of certain things they do on your own children and set limits to protect them. Foe example, if your Mom has pseudoseizures and is not getting treatment, you could limit her contact with your children to only times when you are present to supervise-even tho it's a pseudoseizure, it still effectively limits her ability to be available and provide a safe environment for your kids if they are little. This could prompt your Mom to seek help in order to be more available and to become the safe person who can be trusted to babysit if this is something important to her.
Most importantly, take care of yourself and try to be helpful only insofar as they are seeking appropriate help. It's very painful to watch those you love not seek the help they so obviously need and settle for a life that is more difficult than it needs to be. Be encouraging and stay connected, but don't feel responsible for fixing what they choose to allow to remain broken, if you know what I mean.
Best of luck!

Answer 2

Sorry to hear that. Dealing with family problems is always difficult and stressful. It is pretty much impossible to help others, especially parents, if they don't want to help themselves. Unless, your extended family can somehow have an "intervention" and convince them to work towards change, there is not much you can do. The important thing is to avoid having the mental health issues repeat itself in the next generation. You and your siblings would be advised to seek counseling for yourselves in order to learn life skills and mental health strategies to prepare yourselves for the best lives possible. Then perhaps you and your siblings could demonstrate good mental health and good behavioral strategies by example. Best wishes.

Answer 3

Unfortunately, unless they want to get help, you cannot force them.