I was in a marriage that was extremely abusive, and after a couple of years. I fought back and I almost went to jail because, when I fought back I had lost all senses and went off the deep end and caused bodily harm that you could see. I tried leaving but had no where to go at the time (22 years ago ). I had to leave the house almost every other weekend because of this man and I had two children that I didn't want to see this. Of course after counseling and seeing that he was going to kill me if I didnt get out I left ( very damage ). I was in a conversation with a person that said she was "woman enough to fight back" and this offended me. She isn't all there and starts trouble often with thinking conversations happened abd repeating what she thinks took place. I think this is no friend at all or she plain ignorant and has never been in this situation. Unless you have ever been ther you don't know what your gong to do. I left because of my childrens well being. I still haveissues.
2007-03-26 10:09:17 · 5 answers · asked by rainingonme 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
fighting back physically only escalates the situation and because a man is usually always stronger the woman ends up dead. the way to fight back is to get out and call the police and have the jerk arrested and charged with assault and battery, not domestic abuse. The former is a felony for which he will do hard time, the latter is a misdemeanor. You made a good step by getting out, now follow thru by continuing therapy and get your head straight. Don't give a second thought to the stupid woman you spoke with, she obviously hasn't an intelligent cell in her brain. You deserve and need to surround yourself with better people than that.
2007-03-26 10:16:02 · answer #1 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally I believe that fighting back is good. You can't just take the hits over and over again. I understand that's hard to leave but if you must stay at least defend yourself. Your children will have a hard time understanding but you have to live to be able to explain to them why your are doing these things. Violence is never the answer but defending yourself is inevitable. As for your "friends" comment I disagree and agree at the same time, maybe she should have said that she was brave enough to fight back. Although I have never been in an abusive situation I can only assume that it would be one of the most scariest times in your life, so fighting back would be a result of being brave enough to stick up for yourself.
2007-03-26 10:35:49 · answer #2 · answered by Marray 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't fight back, it will only make the other more mad and then who knows what could happen. I would leave immediately and get on with my life. Kids shouldn't have to see anything like that - it can damage them for life. P.S. If you still have issues with this after all those years then you should really seek professional help.
2007-03-26 10:23:11 · answer #3 · answered by Teia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it would be best to not be in the situation. Take the kids and go to a shelter. Don't let the kids witness abuse as they can mimic the actions A. of the abuser or B. of the abused in later life.
Stop the cycle. Get the hell out.
2007-03-26 10:17:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm glad you fought back and left.
2007-03-26 10:17:07 · answer #5 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋