My son recently married - he and his wife have been together for 10 years since they were 16. Things should not have changed but since the wedding I feel as though I have "lost" my son. I would like to hear comments from anybody else who could explain why I am feeling this - I know its ridiculous but I just can't shake it off. Thanks.
2007-03-26 09:56:49 · 6 answers · asked by Diane 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Hun you have to accept it. I think most mums are like that but i hope im never like that as my hubbies mum is not like that and we have a fab relationship and do loads together. Just think that you might have grandchildren from this and great times together with your new family. If he is your only son then you might feel like that and you must have been close to him and love him very much but try and put it at the back of your mind otherwise it might ruin your relationship with your son.
Good luck
2007-03-26 10:05:18 · answer #1 · answered by Pinkflower 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
see, many of my friends say the same thing you are saying. and i don't understand it. its not ridiculous as you say, its your feelings as a mum.
my husband and i were thrilled for our daughter when she married. we haven't lost anyone, we've gained a new son, and grandchildren are in the future!
in the meantime, we are back to sunday morning lie-ins, lazing about in our jammies if we feel like it, going out whenever we want and not having to worry if she has her keys or when she'll be back. i don't have to have any meal on the table at a set time 'cause of soccer or baseball or cheerleading. we haven't emptied her room, i wouldn't go that far, but thats only because she hasn't had time to come and sort out what she wants to keep and not keep.
however much i love her, i love her being gone! its wonderful, we are on our second honeymoon.
maybe its just the winter blahs making it seem harder for you, and once spring comes you'll feel better? i hope so.
2007-03-26 12:38:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My two girls were recently married. (October and January) I, too, have had similar feelings. I feel as though I am no longer needed and I have been replaced. I know it is crazy and I know this is the natural progression of life but I still am bummed out about it. My mother said she experienced a similar feeling when I got married. I am so sorry you feel the way you do but I can certainly understand why you do. Hang in there. Spend lots of time with him and talk to him often. Seems to help me.
2007-03-26 10:08:03 · answer #3 · answered by mimegamy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you like his wife? If you do then be very happy for him and feel very lucky for yourself.You now have a daughter! I could not love my daughters in law any more if they were my own and feel so blessed! They pull my leg,tease me just the same as my sons do and always remember my birthday etc,so embrace her and love her you will get a lot back if you do and also your son will be closer to you because of it.
2007-03-26 10:05:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to be the gloomy one but when sons marry they tend to slip away from you.I am so glad I have a daughter as my daughter in law isn't very nice I have tried so hard and have now given up and my son seems to be growing just like her.If you daughter in law is nice you will be ok try hard for both your sakes and good luck.
2007-03-26 10:14:48 · answer #5 · answered by sanny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i got married my mom felt the same way, her best friend put it like this, you carry your kid for nine months, and you watch him grow up to be the man he should be, moms are closer to there kids than dads, you have not lost your son you have a man, so be proud of him, and watch him grow and he will take life lessons that he got from home to this marriage.
2007-03-26 10:18:41 · answer #6 · answered by birddog 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋